A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Aging, Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Relationships on Oct 27th, 2014
People talk about good divorces and bad divorces, but what most of us consider a bad divorce typically has to do with money or nastiness and manipulations. I’ll agree that those can be pretty ugly, but there are some divorces that are beyond bad divorces, the “who would do that?” divorces, the Mother of All […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships on Oct 7th, 2014
Susan Pease Gadoua and I had a fantastic book launch Oct. 5 at the wonderful Book Passage in Corte Madera for The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels, with more than 70 people in the audience, bubbly, petits fours by Dragonfly Cakes and two flower bouquets made by Bloomingayles. We were […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Sex on Sep 29th, 2014
Susan Pease Gadoua’s and my book is finally out (yay!), and for those of you who are curious what we’re talking about, her’s a nifty flowchart that our publisher Seal Press put together. There are many more arrows that could connect the dots (or bubbles, as it were), such as a Parenting Marriage connecting to […]
Posted in Children, Cohabitation, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Sex, Single parents, Women on Sep 22nd, 2014
Recently, the Brookings Institute published “The Marriage Effect: Money or Parenting?” — a report that looks into what matters more for children’s well-being — having married parents, being in a financially stable family or parents with good parenting skills. While the report acknowledges that marriage promotion efforts haven’t worked, marriage does seem to offer some […]
Posted in Children, Cohabitation, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Millennials, Parenting, Relationships, Single parents, Weddings on Sep 10th, 2014
Last week, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie tied the knot — or finally tied the knot if you’re a follower of pop culture websites or mags. While they didn’t follow the typical trajectory — meet, date, fall in love, become a committed couple, move in together, wed, have kids — they ended up in the […]
Posted in Expectations, Gender, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Women on Sep 2nd, 2014
Does marriage change you as a person? According to Maroon 5’s Adam Levine, who has been married all of six weeks so we’ll have to take whatever he says with a grain of salt, being married makes him feel more “masculine.” “If it’s the right marriage, if it’s the right person, the guy feels a […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex, Women on Aug 25th, 2014
Women want sex and passion — surprised? If we are to believe a recent study by AshleyMadison.com, that’s why married women say they cheat. They’re not interested in ending their marriage, they’re just looking to put some spark in their sex lives and, let’s face it — once you’ve tried new sex toys, new positions, […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Marriage, Men, Parenting, Relationships, Stereotypes on Aug 19th, 2014
Recently, there was an article on the HuffPost that I found somewhat disturbing. A newly divorced mom who admits she married young — 21 and just out of college — to a man with mental challenges. They eventually divorced with young children and now she has to co-parent with him as former spouses. If co-parenting […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Stereotypes, Women, Work on Aug 12th, 2014
You love your life, you love your spouse and you’re thinking about adding a baby into the mix because you love the idea of having a child with your beloved. No problem, right? Right … depending on your gender, something Rebecca Onion addresses so beautifully in her Slate article: I’m willing to allow that being […]
Posted in Beta marriage, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Millennials, Relationships on Aug 5th, 2014
The past week has brought into our lexicon the idea of a beta marriage — a limited term marital contract — thanks to an article in Time magazine by Jessica Bennett, “The Beta Marriage: How Millennials Approach ‘I Do,‘ based on a (clearly unscientific) survey conducted by the USA Network in conjunction with Satisfaction, its […]
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