A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Expectations, Marriage, Millennials, Relationships on Jul 24th, 2018
What do Cardi B, Justin Bieber, Miley Cyrus, Joe Jonas and Ariana Grande have in common — besides music? They all have recently married or gotten engaged, and they are all 25 years old or younger. Wait — haven’t we been reading forever about how millennials are delaying marriage, pushing the age of the first […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Heartbreak, Love, Men, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Women on Apr 24th, 2018
This week, a “perfect couple,” whose 25-year marriage was the “envy of friends and relatives,” ended in a murder-suicide. If that was a rare thing, it would be shocking but still — rare. Except, it isn’t all that rare. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, more than half of the women murdered […]
Posted in Beta marriage, Dating, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marital plan, Relationships, Renewable marriage, Romantic relationships, Singles on Feb 20th, 2018
Millennials may be ruining everything, from sex to cruises to golf (I’m with you on that last one), but there’s one thing they are actively looking to improve — their relationships, even if they are sidestepping or delaying marriage. Which is great because not everyone wants to wed but even if they do, marriage is […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Coupledom, Dating, Expectations, Love, Millennials, Relationships, Sex on May 2nd, 2017
I don’t often get nostalgic or feel thankful that I grew up when I did because things were better back then. But I just finished reading two books about what’s happening on college campuses now — American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campus by sociologist Lisa Wade and Unwanted Advances: Sexual Paranoia Comes […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Fathers, Midlife, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Women on Apr 19th, 2016
I was standing in line at the grocery store this weekend when I watched a paramedic truck and a fire truck pull up to the front. In hurried about five men, and I watched as they began talking and administering to a boy, around 13- to 15-years-old, who was seated at the front of the […]
Posted in Beta marriage, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Millennials, Relationships on Aug 5th, 2014
The past week has brought into our lexicon the idea of a beta marriage — a limited term marital contract — thanks to an article in Time magazine by Jessica Bennett, “The Beta Marriage: How Millennials Approach ‘I Do,‘ based on a (clearly unscientific) survey conducted by the USA Network in conjunction with Satisfaction, its […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Love, Relationships, Stereotypes on Mar 18th, 2014
My The New I Do coauthor Susan Pease Gadoua and I gave a workshop on dating at the Marin Teen Girls conference this past Saturday, and the room was packed. Fifty high school girls had gathered and they had questions. Lots of questions, smart questions, about sex and friendships and boundaries and cheating. I haven’t […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Friends, Marriage, Millennials, Relationships on Mar 11th, 2014
Your friend tells you he’s getting divorced. You’re shocked because he and his wife always seemed like the perfect couple. You’re worried for them and their young kids, and their divorce causes you to reflect about a lot of things you’ve observed about marriage. You know enough from your own parents’ divorce how unhappy things […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships on Oct 22nd, 2013
I have been married twice and while I loved both my former husbands (well, at the time), neither was my “best friend.” Is that why I’m twice divorced? The answer might depend on whom I ask. People and so-called relationship experts are all over the map on the answer. Over at Thought Catalog, it’s a […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Millennials, Relationships on Oct 15th, 2013
Men and women are pushing back marriage — if they’re even getting married, that is. While our parents may have married in their early 20s, most women nowadays are marrying at 27 and most men at 29. Should we really be worried? Delaying marriage has its perks, especially if you’re a woman: Women accumulate more […]
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