A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Marital plan, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Work on Nov 15th, 2016
When my second hubby and I married, we knew we wanted to be parents. We were both working in the newspaper industry — meaning we weren’t wealthy — but because we both agreed that we wanted someone to be home to raise the kids. Since he was older and more established in his career (and […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Sex, Wife on Oct 25th, 2016
When I interviewed Eric Anderson, an American sociologist at England’s University of Winchester, a few years ago, when his provocative book, The Monogamy Gap: Men, Love, and the Reality of Cheating, was published, I was disturbed by his claim that cheating is a rational choice for people constrained by the social dictate of monogamy. According […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marital plan, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships on Oct 11th, 2016
No matter how you feel about the Angelina Jolie-Brad Pitt divorce — including the desire to not have to think about it, celebrity divorces or divorce in general — there is one thing all parents should pay attention to. The reason they split, we’re lead to believe, is because they couldn’t agree on how to […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Oct 4th, 2016
Affairs have suddenly popped up in the national conversation, and honesty — who doesn’t like a good open discussion about the dishonesty of infidelity? OK, well maybe it’s just me … Former New York mayor Rudy Giuliani, a pal of Donald Trump’s, recently suggested in a conversation slamming Hillary Clinton about Bill Clinton’s affairs that […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Infidelity, Relationships on Sep 20th, 2016
None of us wed thinking we’ll get divorced. Oh sure, most of us are aware that divorce is an option, but not for all, whether for religious beliefs, a desire to make it work no matter what (commitment being a commitment), fear of “failing” or perhaps good ol’ stubbornness. And then, stuff happens. Stuff happened […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Aug 30th, 2016
I am feeling it for Huma Abedin. Just yesterday, Abedin — vice chairwoman of Hillary Clinton’s 2016 presidential campaign — announced that she is separating from her husband, Anthony Weiner, who resigned from Congress in 2011 and lost a bid to be mayor of New York City in 2013, both times because of sexting scandals. […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, LGBT, Marriage, Relationships on Aug 16th, 2016
I know I’ve written about celebs from time to time, but just to be clear, I don’t think anyone should ever look to celebs as marital models — even long-term couples like Jeff Bridges and Kevin Bacon. So it was interesting to discover that Beyoncé Knowles and Kanye West are evidently making marriage “cool” again, […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Divorce, Expectations, Heartbreak, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Jul 12th, 2016
You’re in a long-term happy, sexually active marriage and one day you discover that your spouse has been cheating on you — basically since Day 1. How do you feel? You’d probably feel heart-broken and devastated, which is how a man writing to author, LGBTQ activist and columnist Dan Savage signed off as in his latest […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships on Jul 5th, 2016
Fans far and wide reacted to Eat, Pray, Love author Elizabeth Gilbert’s announcement last week that she and her companion of 12 years and husband of 9 years, Jose Nunes (aka Felipe in her best-selling book), are separating. It’s never an easy decision, even for a woman who so publicly wrote about the demise of […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Coupledom, Divorce, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Singles, Stereotypes, Women on Jun 21st, 2016
The cover of a recent Time magazine declared, “How to stay married (and why).” As you probably know, I am not against marriage or for it either despite the fact that I co-wrote a book about marriage. OK, yes, my co-author and I did say in the book that we were for marriage, but — […]
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