A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Cohabitation, Divorce, Expectations, Midlife, Singles on Oct 23rd, 2012
“Do you think you’d still be married if all the bad stuff hadn’t happened?” a friend asked me recently. “Uh, I don’t know,” I answered after a few minutes. It’s true, I don’t really know. I’d like to believe that in what would be 14 years into our marriage, we still would be. I certainly thought […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Women, Work on Oct 15th, 2012
Reading Laura Doyle’s HuffPost post, “6 Reasons Marriage Counseling is BS,” I recalled my own experience with marriage counseling as my marriage imploded. It was or miss — three couples’ counselors (the first was clearly clueless, the second was good but he didn’t like her, the third came too late), and one solo therapist (I […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Divorce, Family, Fathers, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting on Oct 9th, 2012
There’s a lot of hand-wringing about the 50 percent (give or take) divorce rate and the damage that it does to children. Most of us agree that divorce isn’t something that should be entered into lightly — especially if we have young kids — but most of us believe it needs to be an option […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Sex on Jul 30th, 2012
The big infidelity news this week was a story about 22-year-old actress Kristen Stewart cheating on her boyfriend, Robert Pattinson, with married “Snow White and the Huntsman” director Rupert Sanders — if you even consider kissing and hugging cheating, which is all the tabloids caught them doing and all Stewart’s acknowledged. Still, it was enough […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Sex, Women on Jun 28th, 2012
“Why do people cheat?” I was asked by relationship activist Maryanne Comaroto on her radio shortly shortly after my interview with Eric Anderson and his study on why monogamy is failing men went a little ballistic with comments on the Huffington Post. I stumbled over my words with her because I don’t know why people […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Divorce, Family, Marriage, Men, Parenting, Stereotypes, Work on Jun 18th, 2012
For Father’s Day, I sent my dad — who lives in a nursing home in Florida, some 2,500 miles away — the obligatory card and called him. In the two-plus years since he fell, hit his head, got emergency brain surgery, almost died and miraculously recouped, I have a lot of time to reflect back […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Midlife, Parenting on Jun 11th, 2012
My son’s high school graduation last week was a sea of faces filled with a mix of joy, exhaustion, sadness and uncertainty — not just the 18-year-olds but their parents as well. As I looked around me, I wondered how many married couples, a good portion about to be empty-nesters, would still be married for […]
We’ve been hearing about better male birth control for years now, but in recent weeks two new promising options have come to light: RISUG (reversible inhibition of sperm under guidance), being developed by an Indian scientist, Sujoy Guh, and the discovery of a gene, Katnal1, critical for sperm production; if scientists can tweak the gene […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Men, Sex, Women on May 29th, 2012
Of the many conversations couples need to have before they get married — or move in together — comes another one: What role will the Internet play in their relationship and how transparent are they going to be about that? At least that’s the opinion of Beatriz Avila Mileham, who interviewed married people who used […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Uncategorized on Mar 19th, 2012
Like many, I was surprised when Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins had split back in 2009. They seemed like a pretty solid couple, although they’re celebrities so who really knows. But I was more surprised by her recent statement that their parting made her “feel like a failure.” We like to believe that relationships will last […]
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