A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Beauty, Expectations, Men, Midlife, Politics, Relationships, Sex, Women on Dec 18th, 2018
Russian agent Maria Butina used age-old seduction — flattery and flirtation, and playing to the desires of powerful older men — to attempt to influence U. S. policy. What do so many men, who have so much to lose, fall sway to young babes?
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Cohabitation, Expectations, Family, Happiness, Love, Marital plan, Men, Needs, Relationship contract, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Women on Dec 11th, 2018
When Mandy Len Catron wrote about her relationship contract with her partner in the New York Times’ Modern Love, it get a lot less love than her earlier and much-read Modern Love essay on the 36 questions that can lead you to fall in love with anyone, which led to her charming and insightful book, […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Gender, Happiness, Marriage, Men, Millennials, Mothers, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Wife, Women, Work on Dec 4th, 2018
When I wed for the second time, my hubby and I knew we wanted to have kids. We agreed that we wanted someone to be at home, and since he was older and much more established in his career than I was, we decided he’d be the breadwinner and I’d be the homemaker. Still, I […]
Posted in Caregiving, Expectations, Gender, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Needs, Relationships, Wife, Women on Nov 27th, 2018
Marriage makes people healthy. Or at least that’s what we are constantly told, according to studies that pop up from time to time. While singles advocate Bella dePaulo frequently writes articles debunking those studies, now a new study indicates that, well, she may be both right and wrong. Marriage does help in keeping some people […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Needs, Politics, Relationships, Wife, Women on Nov 13th, 2018
On the surface, it would be hard to find a more picture-perfect healthy, happy marriage — especially an uber-public marriage — than Michelle and Barack Obama’s. Despite the temptation to compare our romantic relationships with the curated happy relationships we often see on Instagram and Facebook — and some of us are guilty of that […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Men, Needs, Relationships, Sex, Singles, Women on Oct 30th, 2018
#MeToo stories have been dominating the news for the past year, and many men are exploring their own behavior toward women and what masculinity means to them — all necessary discussions. Women, men are finally beginning to understand, have sexual agency. But based on a discussion I had with a 52-year-old man I had just […]
Posted in Expectations, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Wife, Women on Oct 16th, 2018
I don’t know about you, but watching Christine Blasey Ford’s testimony before Congress about how Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh had sexually assaulted her when they were in high school, and his subsequent confirmation nevertheless, has made me furious and wondering, why. Why are women considered second class when we clearly are just about half — […]
Posted in Aging, Caregiving, Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Needs, Relationships, Women on Sep 25th, 2018
There’s been a lot of talk about so-called gray divorces — people aged 50 and older who exit their often long-term marriage for a variety of reasons. Some look forward to their newfound freedom as singles, some seek casual arrangements, some are eager to partner again but not marry, and some remarry and replicate the […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Needs, Relationships, Sex, Women on Sep 18th, 2018
For many years everything I read and heard, and thus believed, is that women aren’t good at casual sex, only have affairs for love, eventually become disinterested in sex and do best in monogamous relationships. OK, but my lived experience proved otherwise. True, I’ve been a serial monogamist, which I interpret as being pretty good […]
Posted in Expectations, Men, Millennials, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Women on Aug 21st, 2018
You’re a popular gamer who has millions of fans on your Twitch channel, where people watch you play video games (yeah, it’s a thing), in this case, “Fortnite Battle Royale,” and you make a crapload of money doing that, but there are some people you just won’t play with — women. Say what? I am […]
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