A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Family, Infidelity, Marriage, Sex, Stereotypes on Jan 22nd, 2013
At yesterday’s inaugural speech, President Obama strongly hinted that he may endorse marriage for gays and lesbians as an equal right under the Constitution: “Our journey is not complete until our gay brothers and sisters are treated like anyone else under the law, for if we are truly created equal, then surely the love we […]
Posted in Expectations, Marriage, Sex, Stereotypes on Dec 31st, 2012
If all goes well, Crystal Harris and Hugh Hefner will be wed tonight, New Year’s Eve. I know what many people — perhaps even you — are thinking. She’s 26, he’s 86, and let’s not pretend that a 60-year-difference in age doesn’t mean something. For some, it means Harris is a gold-digger, for some it […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Sex, Stereotypes on Dec 24th, 2012
It’s Christmas and my friend’s child wants a pink bike. That’s not a problem — lots of companies make pink bikes. For girls. Her child is a boy. It’s hard being a boy who’s drawn to the color pink. Not that the kids see anything wrong with it – it’s just a color, after all. […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Dating, Expectations, Marriage, Singles, Stereotypes on Nov 26th, 2012
We’re down one big family get-together with a few more to go for 2012, and I’m guessing many 20- and 30-somethings were asked something along the lines of this: “So, are you still single?” With more singles than ever, a 50 percent or so divorce rate, a tenfold increase in cohabitation and a growing number […]
Posted in Aging, Beauty, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Sex, Stereotypes, Women on Nov 19th, 2012
The very married Gen. David Petraeus had an affair with a younger woman and the very married Gen. John Allen may have sent inappropriate emails to a younger woman. Whenever powerful men stray, we turn wonder, what’s going on at home? So we turn our attention to the wronged wives, and guess what — Holly […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Stereotypes on Sep 24th, 2012
I was married for 14 years. The marriage produced two amazing young men. Nine years ago, it ended in divorce, and their dad and I have co-parented well. Please don’t call my marriage a failed marriage. A friend recently called me to task on why I am so resistant to calling a marriage that ends […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Stereotypes on Sep 11th, 2012
I knew it: Anytime you talk about men and infidelity, people want to remind you that men aren’t the only ones who cheat. And they’re right. So of course my HuffPo story this week, The downside of being a stay-at-home dad?, based on my article here last week, Do stay-at-home-dads cheat more than other dads?, […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Men, Sex, Singles, Stereotypes on Aug 7th, 2012
All parents can be embarrassing, but perhaps none more of late than Ike Lochte, mother of Olympian swimmer Ryan Lochte. Poor Ike set off a media firestorm last week when, while trying to explain that her 28-year-old son is too busy to have a girlfriend, said that he “goes out on one-night stands.” Well, that’s […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Marriage, Parenting, Stereotypes on Jul 28th, 2012
If you’re divorced, you know all too well about the numerous studies of how divorce impacts kids; what we rarely hear about is how children impact their parents’ marriage. Not how tired, worried and poorer kids make us (and, yes, they do all of that), but what happens when things don’t go according to plan […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Divorce, Family, Marriage, Men, Parenting, Stereotypes, Work on Jun 18th, 2012
For Father’s Day, I sent my dad — who lives in a nursing home in Florida, some 2,500 miles away — the obligatory card and called him. In the two-plus years since he fell, hit his head, got emergency brain surgery, almost died and miraculously recouped, I have a lot of time to reflect back […]
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