A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Cohabitation, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships, Singles, Stereotypes on Sep 24th, 2013
I had to create security questions for online banking this week — no biggie, right? — but as I scrolled through my choices, I was somewhat taken aback. Three of the seven questions I could choose from assumed I was married, wanting to know where I went on my honeymoon, what my spouse’s middle name […]
Posted in Expectations, Marriage, Relationships, Singles, Stereotypes, Weddings on Aug 13th, 2013
There must be something really wrong with me. Whenever I hear people say that they “can’t afford to get married,” I am left scratching my head and dumbfounded — admittedly not my best look. Getting married is not expensive, but a wedding can be. The first time I married, our wedding — an admittedly hippie […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships, Sex, Stereotypes on Aug 5th, 2013
Remember when you and your sweetie were dating? Besides being unable to take your hands off each other and thinking about each other constantly, you most likely were engaged in a mutual admiration society — he’d tell you how beautiful you looked in that dress, she’d tell him that she loves the way his eyes […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Family, Relationships, Singles, Stereotypes on Jul 2nd, 2013
It has been 10 years since my (second) divorce, and while in some ways my life became harder and in other ways easier, there was one thing I hadn’t anticipated about being suddenly single at midlife — freedom. Well, I’m not exactly “free”; my boys were 9 and 12 at the time, so they lived […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Stereotypes on Jun 18th, 2013
Two amazing things happened this weekend — I took part in the Women’s PowerStrategy Conference and it was my dad’s funeral. While those two events are seemingly disparate (while I celebrated my father’s life, I am still mourning my loss), I realized that something joyous happened at both events; a recognition that the stories we […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Relationships, Stereotypes on Jun 10th, 2013
A few months ago, I asked, does getting married make you an adult? It’s a question that came up when my The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Cynics, Commitaphobes and Connubial DIYers coauthor, Susan Pease Gadoua, and I met with two soon-to-be-married couples separately as we gathered research for our book. “Marriage is just […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Fathers, Men, Parenting, Stereotypes on Jun 4th, 2013
We’re coming up on Father’s Day, and even though I’m not a fan of Hallmark holidays the day will be nonetheless hard for me this year. My father passed away May 26, just a few weeks shy of his 89th birthday, so his death will be very fresh on the day to honor him. Although […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Stereotypes on May 13th, 2013
Gwyneth Paltrow — the most beautiful woman in the world, according to People — confessed to what Ben Affleck admitted a few months ago — marriage is hard and it takes work. “It’s hard being married. You go through great times, you go through terrible times. We’re the same as any couple,” Paltrow said of […]
Posted in Expectations, Family, Marriage, Stereotypes, Work on Apr 29th, 2013
I didn’t know much about Marco, the guy who kindly takes me to and from my mechanic and my job when my car needs servicing. I knew he is in the States legally, I knew he worked about 70 hours a week at two jobs, I knew he had a wife and a 9-year-old son […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Sex, Stereotypes on Apr 8th, 2013
Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith have been in the headlines a lot in recent years, and not because of their movies. They’re either on the verge of divorce or they have an open marriage; I’m not sure which horrifies people more. I can understand why people might be concerned about them divorcing; they have […]
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