A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Children, Expectations, Family, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Relationships, Sex, Women on Jan 30th, 2018
You’re pregnant with your first child. Can’t speak what that’s like for a man but for a woman who has maybe wanted to be a mom for a long time, and who sometimes wondered if that was going to happen, it’s a wonderful, scary, exhausting, overwhelming thing. I’m sure it was for Melania Trump, too, […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Men, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex, Women on Jan 23rd, 2018
In the past week we’ve seen the second women’s march and a spirited discussion about an account of “Grace,” a young woman whose date with comedian Aziz Ansari went horribly awry in her eyes, from being “by far the worst experience with a man I’ve ever had,” to unwanted sex — or what she considers […]
Posted in Beauty, Coupledom, Dating, Expectations, Happiness, Heartbreak, Love, Marriage, Men, Millennials, Mothers, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex, Singles, Women on Jan 15th, 2018
We’re coming up on Valentine’s Day, the day we celebrate romantic love. But what, exactly, is romantic love? If someone asked you, “What does love mean to you?” how would you answer? Would you say it’s wonderful or would you say love hurts? Or is it some combination? Most of us have our own definition […]
Posted in Expectations, Happiness, Live Apart Together, Marriage, Needs, Relationships, Sex, Women on Jan 9th, 2018
Fire and Fury: Inside the Trump White House, a scathing look at Donald Trump, was just published , and while there are many shocking and horrific revelations in author Michael Wolff’s book, here are two that shouldn’t be: Trump and his wife, Melania, sleep in separate bedrooms, and they don’t spend a lot of time […]
Posted in Dating, Gender, Happiness, Men, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex, Singles, Women on Dec 19th, 2017
If you haven’t read “Cat Person” yet — Kristen Roupenian’s short story in the New Yorker of an ill-fated relationship (aka an uncomfortable one-night stand) between Margot, a 20-year old college student, and Robert, a 34-year-old man whom she met at the movie theater where she works — I’m betting you have at least heard of […]
Posted in Children, Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Family, Live Apart Together, Love, Marriage, Midlife, Needs, Parenting, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex on Dec 5th, 2017
It’s December, beginning of engagement season. So if you’ve already gotten a ring, or hoping to get one this month, there’s just one thing left to do after you’re told your loved ones and friends, and posted your bling on Facebook and Instagram. No, not start planning your wedding — start planning your marriage. First […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Needs, Relationships, Sex, Wife, Women on Nov 21st, 2017
Your spouse had an affair — can that benefit your marriage? According to renowned therapist Esther Perel’s new book The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity, maybe. Perel explores a lot in her book — much more than I can address here — but I was particularly drawn to her exploration of why more women are […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Family, Happiness, Marriage, Needs, Parenting, Relationships, Sex on Oct 31st, 2017
The recent release of the movie Professor Marston and the Wonder Women has been heralded as “a trailblazer for polyamory in film” for depicting a polyamorous arrangement in a positive light. But the story, based on the lives of William Moulton Marston, the creator of Wonder Woman, his wife, Elizabeth, and his — and their […]
Posted in Coupledom, Dating, Expectations, Marriage, Millennials, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex, Singles on Oct 17th, 2017
You’re single, let’s say by choice not chance, and you have a full, happy life. There’s only one thing missing — sex. How do you get it? This was a question posed on a private singles group moderated by social scientist Bella DePaulo, author of Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Mothers, Needs, Parenting, Relationships, Sex, Single parents, Women on Oct 3rd, 2017
You’re in love with your partner and your partner loves you and you strongly believe that if two people love each other, then there’s no reason why they shouldn’t have a child together. Except your partner doesn’t want children — now what? That’s the dilemma Heather Harpham faced, which she writes about in her memoir […]
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