A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Men, Needs, Relationships, Sex, Singles, Women on Oct 30th, 2018
#MeToo stories have been dominating the news for the past year, and many men are exploring their own behavior toward women and what masculinity means to them — all necessary discussions. Women, men are finally beginning to understand, have sexual agency. But based on a discussion I had with a 52-year-old man I had just […]
Posted in Coupledom, Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Men, Midlife, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex, Single parents, Singles, Stereotypes on Oct 23rd, 2018
People are worried about Brad Pitt. Although he’s newly single and available now, ever since he and Angelina Jolie split in 2016, there’s been a kerfuffle about his dating life. “Who would have imagined in the year 2018 women would be scrambling to deny reports that they were dating Brad Pitt?” asks E! Online. More […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Needs, Relationships, Sex, Women on Sep 18th, 2018
For many years everything I read and heard, and thus believed, is that women aren’t good at casual sex, only have affairs for love, eventually become disinterested in sex and do best in monogamous relationships. OK, but my lived experience proved otherwise. True, I’ve been a serial monogamist, which I interpret as being pretty good […]
Posted in Beta marriage, Divorce, Expectations, Happiness, Live Apart Together, Love, Marriage, Needs, Relationships, Renewable marriage, Sex on Sep 11th, 2018
A few weeks ago, I heard from Christina Hoff Sommers and Danielle Crittenden, creators of the Femsplainers podcast, who kindly asked me to join them for Season Two and talk about reshaping marriage a la The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels. And so I did. Sommers, the author of five […]
Posted in Aging, Consensual nonmonogamy, Dating, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Midlife, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex, Singles on Aug 28th, 2018
Four years ago, I explored dating at midlife, which has proven to be one of my more popular posts. Four years ago — when I was four years younger than I am now, sigh — I noted that a number of my 50-something, empty-nester, divorced female friends had happily found love again. Some cohabited. Some […]
Posted in Expectations, Happiness, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex on Aug 7th, 2018
“What is it that stops young women from having as much sexual agency as they should have, which includes being able to say no when you want to and yes when you want to?” Laura Kipnis told me when I interviewed her not long after her book, Unwanted Advances: Sexual Paranoia Comes to Campus was […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marriage, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex on Jul 3rd, 2018
I’ve had sex on my mind lately. From the rise of incels to a call for the redistribution of sex to the lack of sex among millennials to the claim that women over 50 are having the Best Sex Ever — ahem and amen — can you blame me? But mostly I am constantly reminded about the […]
Posted in Expectations, Happiness, Marital plan, Needs, Relationship contract, Relationships, Sex on Jun 26th, 2018
Dear Ann: Help! My partner and I purchased a robot to care for our two boys, 2 and 4. We both liked the Ingrid model for her sweet face and pleasant disposition, with a Waldorf-like approach to child rearing. Plus, she easily managed to do some light housekeeping chores, turning into a game with the […]
Posted in Expectations, Heartbreak, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Jun 19th, 2018
They were crazy in love in the beginning, but in the past few years, we’ve learned a lot more about Beyoncé and Jay-Z’s marriage, from Beyoncé’s allegations of Jay-Z’s infidelities in her 2016 album Lemonade to Jay-Z’s confession and remorse in his 2017 album 4:44, which seemingly led to a reconciliation not long after Beyoncé […]
Posted in Beauty, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Sex, Women on May 1st, 2018
Robots are coming and they’re either going to take your job or save your marriage. Say what? Most of us have heard how robots will impact the workforce … but a marriage? Yes, says economist and Dollars and Sex author Marina Adshade. Recently the professor at the University of British Columbia in Vancouver read from […]
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