A few years ago, a friend pooh-poohed the idea of open relationships. “They only work until someone better comes along, and then the new partners decide to be exclusive,” my friend said. It was an interesting commentary from someone who had been unfaithful and eventually left the marriage (granted, it was an unhappy marriage to […]
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Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Midlife, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Sex, Women on Sep 3rd, 2013
I had the pleasure of interviewing local chef and author Toni Piccinini about her book, The Goodbye Year: Wisdom and Culinary Therapy to Survive Your Child’s Senior Year of High School and Reclaim the You of You). OK, it’s a long title, but as we sat at Book Passage, chatting about the take-away messages of […]
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Remember when you and your sweetie were dating? Besides being unable to take your hands off each other and thinking about each other constantly, you most likely were engaged in a mutual admiration society — he’d tell you how beautiful you looked in that dress, she’d tell him that she loves the way his eyes […]
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Former New York Gov. Eliot L. Spitzer is ready to get back in politics, as is former congressman Anthony Weiner. You remember them — both had sex scandals that derailed them from their positions. We’re all too eager to oust politicians who have been unfaithful, and the last few years have brought a spate of […]
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Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Fathers, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Sex, Singles on May 28th, 2013
I was at a party, the kind where bosoms, booze and mouths overflowed. There wasn’t much happening with my bosom, but my then-husband’s mouth was going for it. “You know,” he said to my dearest friend, “I like being married but living like I’m single.” When she shared that with me the next day we […]
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Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith have been in the headlines a lot in recent years, and not because of their movies. They’re either on the verge of divorce or they have an open marriage; I’m not sure which horrifies people more. I can understand why people might be concerned about them divorcing; they have […]
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Posted in Dating, Expectations, Infidelity, Sex on Mar 26th, 2013
The news broke last week — award-winning skier Lindsey Vonn is dating uber-cheater/golfing champ Tiger Woods, which either means it’s a clever and calculated PR move or she has to be the most trusting woman in the world. Isn’t a cheater always a cheater — especially one of the magnitude of Tiger? Not necessarily. I […]
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The HuffPo had a piece today on the double standard on weight gain for spouses. A woman had written to an advice columnist about how fat and lazy her longtime partner — whom she also describes as “intelligent, accomplished, emotionally mature, kind, loving, and funny” — had become, only to be told, “I’m sick, sick, […]
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At yesterday’s inaugural speech, President Obama strongly hinted that he may endorse marriage for gays and lesbians as an equal right under the Constitution: “Our journey is not complete until our gay brothers and sisters are treated like anyone else under the law, for if we are truly created equal, then surely the love we […]
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Posted in Expectations, Marriage, Sex, Stereotypes on Dec 31st, 2012
If all goes well, Crystal Harris and Hugh Hefner will be wed tonight, New Year’s Eve. I know what many people — perhaps even you — are thinking. She’s 26, he’s 86, and let’s not pretend that a 60-year-difference in age doesn’t mean something. For some, it means Harris is a gold-digger, for some it […]
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