A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Children, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships, Romantic relationships on Feb 12th, 2018
We’re in the middle of National Marriage Week, a campaign that seeks to strengthen marriage and that ends on Valentine’s Day. Few would argue against strong marriages, but the truth is more young people are delaying or avoiding marriage. Meanwhile, more older people are divorcing like crazy and either happily living alone or living together […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Men, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex, Women on Jan 23rd, 2018
In the past week we’ve seen the second women’s march and a spirited discussion about an account of “Grace,” a young woman whose date with comedian Aziz Ansari went horribly awry in her eyes, from being “by far the worst experience with a man I’ve ever had,” to unwanted sex — or what she considers […]
Posted in Beauty, Coupledom, Dating, Expectations, Happiness, Heartbreak, Love, Marriage, Men, Millennials, Mothers, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex, Singles, Women on Jan 15th, 2018
We’re coming up on Valentine’s Day, the day we celebrate romantic love. But what, exactly, is romantic love? If someone asked you, “What does love mean to you?” how would you answer? Would you say it’s wonderful or would you say love hurts? Or is it some combination? Most of us have our own definition […]
Posted in Beauty, Children, Dating, Expectations, Family, Gender, Happiness, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Women on Dec 26th, 2017
You know the drill — men want to date and marry a younger, beautiful woman and women want to date and marry men who have money and status. Is that still true today? Well, yes and no. In an article originally published at Aeon that has been republished under Creative Commons, professor of psychology Marcel […]
Posted in Dating, Gender, Happiness, Men, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex, Singles, Women on Dec 19th, 2017
If you haven’t read “Cat Person” yet — Kristen Roupenian’s short story in the New Yorker of an ill-fated relationship (aka an uncomfortable one-night stand) between Margot, a 20-year old college student, and Robert, a 34-year-old man whom she met at the movie theater where she works — I’m betting you have at least heard of […]
Posted in Beta marriage, Divorce, Expectations, Happiness, Marital plan, Marriage, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Women on Dec 12th, 2017
I am a champion of short-term love. That is how I have lived my entire life although, granted, I did say, “I do” twice with the presumption that those marriages would be forever. That’s all I knew, that was the romantic script; I didn’t know that we had choices. But we do. I have long […]
Posted in Children, Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Family, Live Apart Together, Love, Marriage, Midlife, Needs, Parenting, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex on Dec 5th, 2017
It’s December, beginning of engagement season. So if you’ve already gotten a ring, or hoping to get one this month, there’s just one thing left to do after you’re told your loved ones and friends, and posted your bling on Facebook and Instagram. No, not start planning your wedding — start planning your marriage. First […]
Posted in Coupledom, Dating, Expectations, Marriage, Millennials, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex, Singles on Oct 17th, 2017
You’re single, let’s say by choice not chance, and you have a full, happy life. There’s only one thing missing — sex. How do you get it? This was a question posed on a private singles group moderated by social scientist Bella DePaulo, author of Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and […]
Posted in Aging, Cohabitation, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Renewable marriage, Romantic relationships on Oct 10th, 2017
The funny thing about marriage (well, there are many, but let’s narrow it down) is that lots of people seem to have a “secret” that will magically transform everyone’s marriage into a manageable, doable and supposedly happy union. Like this week’s Modern Love written by Gabrielle Zevin — except her secret to marriage isn’t necessarily […]
Posted in Coupledom, Divorce, Expectations, Friends, Happiness, Heartbreak, Marital plan, Marriage, Needs, Relationships, Renewable marriage, Romantic relationships, Women on Sep 26th, 2017
When Anna Faris and Chris Pratt announced their separation, fans were crushed — it certainly one of those oft-repeated celebrity “love is dead moments.” The couple, who had been married since 2009 and have a 5-year-old son, seemed to be a great fit. So then, what happened? Life happened. While we can never know the […]
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