A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Expectations, Happiness, Marital plan, Millennials, Needs, Relationship contract, Relationships, Romantic relationships on Feb 26th, 2019
Relationship contracts aren’t really about limiting a partner’s NPR listening and football watching.
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marriage, Millennials, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex, Wife on Feb 19th, 2019
It’s easy to see why marriage feels scary for Justin and Hailey Bieber. But it’s not marriage per se that’s scary — it’s the idea of marriage as an “until death” commitment that’s scary. And who is taking on more of the scary stuff.
Posted in Coupledom, Dating, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex, Singles, Stereotypes, Women on Feb 5th, 2019
Presidential candidate Cory Booker has never been married while presidential candidate Kamala Harris once dated a powerful politician. Why are we still questioning the romantic choices of single people?
Posted in Aging, Dating, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Midlife, Relationships, Romantic relationships on Jan 29th, 2019
At midlife, many of us are not following the typical romantic script. We may have been hoping for love, but we didn’t necessarily expect it. And that turns out to be a gift.
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Gender, Infidelity, Marital plan, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Wife, Women, Work on Jan 15th, 2019
Jeff and MacKenzie Bezos both contributed to the wealth of their family. She isn’t “walking away” or being “awarded” that wealth: she earned it.
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Love, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Romantic relationships on Dec 31st, 2018
We love our children, our partners, and we want to protect them. It’s understandable. And yet, it’s probably the worst thing we can do for them.
Posted in Coupledom, Dating, Love, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Singles, Stereotypes on Dec 25th, 2018
The world discovered last week that singer-songwriter-poet-visual artist extraordinaire Patti Smith and actor-producer-director extraordinaire Ralph Fiennes are dating. Well, maybe. All we know for certain is that they certainly are good friends for a long time, and have only been spoken of as good friends. But when Smith posted a loving tribute to Fiennes on […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Cohabitation, Expectations, Family, Happiness, Love, Marital plan, Men, Needs, Relationship contract, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Women on Dec 11th, 2018
When Mandy Len Catron wrote about her relationship contract with her partner in the New York Times’ Modern Love, it get a lot less love than her earlier and much-read Modern Love essay on the 36 questions that can lead you to fall in love with anyone, which led to her charming and insightful book, […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Gender, Happiness, Marriage, Men, Millennials, Mothers, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Wife, Women, Work on Dec 4th, 2018
When I wed for the second time, my hubby and I knew we wanted to have kids. We agreed that we wanted someone to be at home, and since he was older and much more established in his career than I was, we decided he’d be the breadwinner and I’d be the homemaker. Still, I […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Coupledom, Expectations, Happiness, Heartbreak, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex on Nov 20th, 2018
It’s almost Thanksgiving, the beginning of the holiday season and the kick off of “engagement season.” The pressures around the holidays make many of us unhappy, and even if we’re generally OK with our situations — partnered or not — it’s hard not to buy into the whole “most wonderful time of the year” thing. […]
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