A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Infidelity, Relationships, Sex on May 23rd, 2017
“Is an open marriage a happier marriage,” a recent New York Times magazine cover story written by Susan Dominus asked. With a headline and topic like that, of course it went viral — as if no one ever considered that consensual nonmonogamy has existed for decades and, yes, it might actually be a good thing […]
Posted in Expectations, Men, Relationships, Sex, Women on May 16th, 2017
Your spouse mentions that you haven’t had sex in weeks. You’re not really in the mood but, hey, it has been a long time and you just don’t want to get into a thing about sex — again — so you give in. The person you’ve been seeing for a few weeks asks you to […]
Posted in Aging, Expectations, Love, Men, Politics, Relationships, Women on May 9th, 2017
Emmanuel Macron made history this past weekend — at 39, he’s the youngest man to be elected president of France. While many might applaud that, as well as his centrist policies over the nationalistic views of his former opponent, Marine Le Pen, others were astonished by the 25-year age gap between Macron and his wife, […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Coupledom, Dating, Expectations, Love, Millennials, Relationships, Sex on May 2nd, 2017
I don’t often get nostalgic or feel thankful that I grew up when I did because things were better back then. But I just finished reading two books about what’s happening on college campuses now — American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campus by sociologist Lisa Wade and Unwanted Advances: Sexual Paranoia Comes […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Heartbreak, Parenting, Relationships on Apr 25th, 2017
Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook’s chief operating officer and founder of Lean In, experienced the kind of grief some of us already know and what most married people will likely know — the sudden death of a spouse. Her husband, Dave, died of cardiac arrhythmia while they were on a Mexican vacation in 2015, and Sandburg had […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex, Stereotypes on Apr 18th, 2017
Back when my New I Do co-author and I were doing research for our book and interviewing engaged couples about why they wanted to wed (most were already living together), one groom-to-be mentioned sex among the many reasons. “You want to marry for sex?” his fiancee asked, somewhat horrified. He immediately got sheepish as he […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marital plan, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Wife on Apr 11th, 2017
A few months ago, singer Janet Jackson made news by becoming a first-time mother at age 50, to a baby boy Eissa. This week, she made news again — she and her husband, Qatari businessman Wissam Al Mana, have separated. According to Page Six, a family source said Jackson became aware of cultural problems between […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Sex, Women on Apr 4th, 2017
What would you be willing to do to have an affair-proof marriage? Would you go so far as Vice President Mike Pence, whose agreement with his wife, Karen — both evangelical Christians — became public last week? The Washington Post reported, “In 2002, Mike Pence told the Hill that he never eats alone with a […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Politics, Relationships, Sex on Mar 28th, 2017
Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner have evidently bounced back from a much-publicized “strained period” during which she almost filed for divorce. Affleck recently finished rehab in hopes of becoming a better father. They’re not back together, People reports, but a source described as close to Garner said the actress has backed off from filing for […]
Posted in Expectations, Live Apart Together, Marriage, Midlife, Relationships on Mar 21st, 2017
The secret to a happy marriage may mean living apart together in separate master suites, a recent Wall Street Journal article declared. Not everyone lives in a “4,700 square-foot Tudor home” or wants to, but without a doubt, more people, especially older people (like — *sigh* — me) are interested in having a room — […]
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