A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Coupledom, Dating, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Needs, Relationships, Women on Jul 17th, 2018
If you’re a woman of any dateable age, you have probably heard some version of this: have fun with the bad boys but marry the good guy. Women are constantly told we should want good guys, nice guys, and really — who doesn’t want a good guy? But what if he’s a good guy but […]
Posted in Aging, Children, Coupledom, Expectations, Family, Happiness, Midlife, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Singles on Jul 10th, 2018
When my first marriage ended and I spent several years as a single woman in my mid- to late-20s, contentedly dating but not meeting any kind of man I’d want to partner with — OK, it was Miami in the ’80s so maybe it was a Miami thing — I remember thinking, well, I just […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marriage, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex on Jul 3rd, 2018
I’ve had sex on my mind lately. From the rise of incels to a call for the redistribution of sex to the lack of sex among millennials to the claim that women over 50 are having the Best Sex Ever — ahem and amen — can you blame me? But mostly I am constantly reminded about the […]
Posted in Expectations, Happiness, Marital plan, Needs, Relationship contract, Relationships, Sex on Jun 26th, 2018
Dear Ann: Help! My partner and I purchased a robot to care for our two boys, 2 and 4. We both liked the Ingrid model for her sweet face and pleasant disposition, with a Waldorf-like approach to child rearing. Plus, she easily managed to do some light housekeeping chores, turning into a game with the […]
Posted in Expectations, Heartbreak, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Jun 19th, 2018
They were crazy in love in the beginning, but in the past few years, we’ve learned a lot more about Beyoncé and Jay-Z’s marriage, from Beyoncé’s allegations of Jay-Z’s infidelities in her 2016 album Lemonade to Jay-Z’s confession and remorse in his 2017 album 4:44, which seemingly led to a reconciliation not long after Beyoncé […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Live Apart Together, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Tragedy on Jun 12th, 2018
With the back-to-back suicides of two beloved icons, designer Kate Spade and chef, author and TV personality Anthony Bourdain, just last week, many of us are wondering — why? They seemingly had it all: money, fame, successful businesses and loving, committed partners. But as people try to wrap their head around their suicides, they inevitably […]
Posted in Expectations, Happiness, Marital plan, Marriage, Millennials, Relationship contract, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Women on Jun 5th, 2018
There are many myths about marriage and there’s a lot of bad advice about marriage, but one thing is true: modern marriages would benefit from relationship contracts. So I was truly surprised to read an article by John Gottman and Christopher Dollard of the Gottman Institute, Five myths about marriage, claiming it’s a myth that […]
Posted in Children, Consensual nonmonogamy, Happiness, Live Apart Together, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Romantic relationships on May 29th, 2018
Actor Hugh Grant got married last week to his longtime partner, Swedish television producer Anna Eberstein, the first time the father of five has tied the knot. He’s 57. That in and of itself is not weird — more couples are having children outside of marriage and many “perpetual bachelors” marry later in life, as […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Happiness, Heartbreak, Love, Marriage, Midlife, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Weddings on May 22nd, 2018
Even if you weren’t glued to the TV to watch the wedding of Meghan Markle and Prince Harry, even if you managed to avoid the hype in the months before it and even if you don’t buy into the fairy-tale wedding thing — and this is certainly a real-life “my prince has come” story — […]
Posted in Aging, Children, Divorce, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Midlife, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships on May 15th, 2018
If your marriage makes it to the 20th year — when you’re likely at midlife — you’ll either be the happiest you’ve been in your marriage, according to a new study, or you’ll be heading to divorce court, as so many 50 and older people have been doing in recent years, either happily — if […]
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