A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Fathers, Midlife, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Women on Apr 19th, 2016
I was standing in line at the grocery store this weekend when I watched a paramedic truck and a fire truck pull up to the front. In hurried about five men, and I watched as they began talking and administering to a boy, around 13- to 15-years-old, who was seated at the front of the […]
Posted in Children, Family, Gender, Parenting, Relationships, Singles, Women, Work on Apr 12th, 2016
This probably has been a hard week for childfree people. San Francisco just approved six weeks of fully paid parental leave, coming on the heels of New York City’s law requiring up to 12 weeks of partially paid time off for new parents and California Gov. Jerry Brown boosting paid-family leave benefits. Well, hey, wonderful, you […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Renewable marriage on Apr 5th, 2016
This week, there were two stories that addressed the “happily-ever-after” version of marriage many of us expect, or at least want to believe. Actress Drew Barrymore and her third husband, art consultant Will Kopelman, are divorcing after two children and three years of marriage. At the same time, a Maine couple were being honored for […]
Posted in Children, Cohabitation, Divorce, Family, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Single parents, Women on Feb 23rd, 2016
When I divorced the first time, in my 20s, there were a few people who were upset — my former husband and me, naturally, as well as our parents. Beyond that? Nope. How different a reality than when I divorced the second time. Was it because I was then middle-aged, and people worried about what […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Sex, Women on Feb 2nd, 2016
When I said “I do” the second time, at age 32, I knew what this marriage was about — kids. We both said we wanted to have a child, maybe two (my preference), and we talked about what that might mean for us financially. We were both journalists at the time — not big income […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Gender, LGBT, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Stereotypes on Dec 15th, 2015
“Whatever, love is love,” actress Maria Bello’s 12-year-old son Jackson said to her when she told him that she had fallen in love with a longtime family friend — and a woman. In her Modern Love essay in 2013 and her book, Whatever … Love Is Love: Questioning The Labels We Give Ourselves, which came […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships on Dec 8th, 2015
Does divorce really set a child’s life on the path to ruin? Is it better if parents stay “for the kids,” even if they no longer love each other? This has been much debated by academics, therapists and others. How do we know for sure how divorce impacts a child, if it even does at […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marital plan, Marriage, Midlife, Parenting, Relationships on Nov 24th, 2015
Nothing will make you think more about what marriage is about than a divorce. But there’s divorce and then there’s divorce. When I divorced in my 20s and we had nothing — no property, no savings, no kids — it was emotionally challenging, true, but that’s about it. If someone presented me a way to […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Stereotypes on Sep 8th, 2015
If you’re as selfie-obsessed as so many others seem to be, you might be aware of Chris and Shannon Neuman, the Canadian couple whose smiling selfie outside the court house, where they were about to end their 11-year marriage, went viral. I usually don’t pay too much attention to selfie news, and so I ignored […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Infidelity, LGBT, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Single parents, Singles, Stereotypes on Jun 30th, 2015
It’s been a monumental week. If you have one of the masses who welcomed allowing same-sex couples to marry, then the Supreme Court’s ruling on Friday was a blessed decision. Coming right before Pride celebrations across the country, it made the yearly event even that much more proud and colorful. So it was hard for […]
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