A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marital plan, Marriage, Midlife, Parenting, Relationships on Nov 24th, 2015
Nothing will make you think more about what marriage is about than a divorce. But there’s divorce and then there’s divorce. When I divorced in my 20s and we had nothing — no property, no savings, no kids — it was emotionally challenging, true, but that’s about it. If someone presented me a way to […]
Posted in Aging, Cohabitation, Expectations, Family, Friends, Midlife, Millennials, Relationships, Single parents, Singles on Sep 1st, 2015
“A place to live is also a way to live.” From the buzz around Kate Bolick’s book Spinster: Making a Life of One’s Own to the unfortunate language Supreme Court Justice Anthony Kennedy used in writing the opinion legalizing same-sex marriage, of the unmarried being “condemned to live in loneliness,” the state of singles […]
Posted in Aging, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Midlife, Relationships, Sex on Feb 2nd, 2015
Aging is OK, given the alternative. But when my nine-year relationship ended about a year ago and I threw myself back into the dating world again, a thought crossed my mind from time to time — will I ever find love again? Not marriage or someone to live with necessarily, because I’m not sure I […]
Posted in Aging, Divorce, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Relationships, Women on Dec 8th, 2014
We all know the tired stereotype — that older men prefer to marry younger women. Case in point, the newly married George Clooney, 53, and Amal, 36. But he’s fabulously wealthy and handsome — surely not every man can attract a younger babe. Except, many do. A new Pew study indicates that 20 percent of […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Relationships, Women on Nov 17th, 2014
Here’s how we imagine it will be: We stand before our beloved the people who matter to us — parents, relatives, friends — and we vow to love, honor and cherish our beloved “until death do us part.” Except, many of us have decided to replace “until death do us part” with “for as long […]
Posted in Aging, Divorce, Friends, Love, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Relationships, Women on Jan 21st, 2014
Buzz Aldrin has been promoting his new book, Mission to Mars: My Vision for Space Exploration, which details his plan to have space travel and a permanent presence on the Red Planet by the 2030s. As controversial as that may be for some, he made just as many headlines when the former astronaut started dating […]
Posted in Aging, Dating, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Relationships, Sex, Singles, Stereotypes, Women on Jan 15th, 2014
Here’s what’s happened in the past year — two girlfriends have gotten engaged, and one has her condo on the market and is looking with her boyfriend to buy a new place and move in together. They are all 50-something, empty-nesters and divorced. Who says middle-aged women can’t find love again? I call BS. And […]
Posted in Aging, Children, Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Midlife, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Sex, Stereotypes, Women on Dec 10th, 2013
Despite societal myths about older women no longer mattering sexually, I have never met a midlife mom post-divorce who didn’t want to be appreciated and embraced as a sexual being. That’s not to say that there weren’t some women who were perfectly content to surrender their sexual identity to focus on raising their children or […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Midlife, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Sex, Women on Sep 3rd, 2013
I had the pleasure of interviewing local chef and author Toni Piccinini about her book, The Goodbye Year: Wisdom and Culinary Therapy to Survive Your Child’s Senior Year of High School and Reclaim the You of You). OK, it’s a long title, but as we sat at Book Passage, chatting about the take-away messages of […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Singles, Women on Mar 11th, 2013
As some of you know, Susan Pease Gadoua and I are co-writing The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels (and just snagged a literary agent, so things are really looking promising!) While it’s essential to talk about reinventing marriage to get the marriage you want, here’s an interesting question to ask […]
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