A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Sex, Wife, Women on Feb 14th, 2017
Oh, Suzanne Venker. Your marriage was in trouble. You admit that your “alpha ways were bumping up against” your husband’s “alpha nature,” that you were “like two bulls hanging out in the same pen together, and there was too much friction.” So you decided you needed to become more feminine because it worked in your […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Single parents, Women on Jan 31st, 2017
This past week has gone from high to low, from the pink pussy-hats seen atop people at the women’s marches across the globe — 3 million-plus in the U.S. alone — to the swift crackdown on our reproductive rights. The image of a handful of white men surrounding President Trump’s desk as he revived — […]
Posted in Caregiving, Coupledom, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Wife, Women, Work on Jan 3rd, 2017
There’s an odd thing that happens whenever women write about how marriage is a better deal for men than women — men want to argue that we’re wrong. Marriage is bad for men, then say and then they back up their arguments by talking about … divorce. They complain that women get alimony, or spousal […]
Posted in Beauty, Coupledom, Expectations, Men, Relationships, Wife, Women on Dec 21st, 2016
I grew up watching Disney films, from Cinderella to Snow White to Fantasia to Mary Poppins. I loved all of them, dressed as a princess or ballerina on many a Halloween and … well, I think it stops there. As a young girl, I never thought — or expected — a handsome prince would rescue […]
Posted in Expectations, Men, Relationships, Wife, Women on Nov 8th, 2016
It’s a familiar story — a talented but tortured man, consumed by drugs or booze or demons or womanizing or all of the above, is told by his woman: “It’s me or your partying.” And just like that, he cleans up his act and starts putting her and their family first. Then they live happily […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Sex, Wife on Oct 25th, 2016
When I interviewed Eric Anderson, an American sociologist at England’s University of Winchester, a few years ago, when his provocative book, The Monogamy Gap: Men, Love, and the Reality of Cheating, was published, I was disturbed by his claim that cheating is a rational choice for people constrained by the social dictate of monogamy. According […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Infidelity, Men, Mothers, Relationships, Sex on Oct 18th, 2016
There you are, finally pregnant, getting the nursery ready and looking forward to your new role as Mom and — bam, your husband cheats on you. Wonderful. At least that’s what happened to Katie Price, one of the stars of the British daytime TV show Loose Women. Not only did hubby Kieran Hayler cheat on […]
Posted in Coupledom, Dating, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Sex on Sep 13th, 2016
I am not a fan of the self-help industry nor of most so-called relationship “experts.” Whenever people start spewing what someone should or shouldn’t do, I get nervous. Who can tell us what’s right or wrong for us? That said, some people often make sense in sharing their stories of their missteps and what they […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Men, Relationships, Wife, Women on Sep 6th, 2016
We had been talking about honesty in romantic relationships — how honest should you be, and if there’s a place for little white lies. It was prompted by a memory. Years ago a friend was egged on by her husband to tell him her fantasies. She hesitated for a long time because her fantasy involved […]
Posted in Children, Consensual nonmonogamy, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Sex, Women on Jun 28th, 2016
You’ve gone on a few dates, you’re starting to like each other and then, the question — “So, how many people have you slept with?” It’s more than just a number, of course — it’s a peek into your sexual beliefs and practices, and, sometimes, a source of shame or pride. According to a 2015 […]
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