When I asked a friend recently how she’s doing, she paused and answered, “I keep wondering if this is all there is.” She, like me, is 50-something and like many 50-somethings we are empty-nesters or about to be empty-nesters; we’re either 20-something years into a marriage or divorced. We’re in the so-called “midlife crisis” years, […]
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Posted in Expectations, Family, Men, Parenting, Women on Feb 20th, 2012
I had the pleasure of interviewing Eve Ensler last week. She’s heading to town for an event this week, a conversation with Isabel Allende at Dominican University. An award-winning author and playwright (The Vagina Monologues, The Good Body) and creator of V-Day, which has raised some $70 million to fight violence against girls and women […]
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Posted in Dating, Expectations, Men, Singles, Women on Feb 13th, 2012
A girlfriend with whom I have been trying to make plans texted me: she’s free to get together Tuesday or Wednesday night. I’m free both nights, too, but then it occurred to me — Tuesday is Valentine’s Day. Even in liberal, open-minded Bay Area, would two women grabbing drinks and dinner together on the most […]
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Posted in Aging, Dating, Men, Sex, Singles, Women on Feb 7th, 2012
A few things went through my head while watching the Super Bowl (beside being thankful that my son gave up football — the injuries! the physical abuse! — and thinking that it would be a bit unfair to be married to Gisele Bundchen and win the Super Bowl). In no particular order, Madonna, aging, Valentine’s […]
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Posted in Divorce, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Sex, Women on Jan 20th, 2012
You’re married and you discover that your spouse is unfaithful. You’re devastated and consider getting a divorce. But, divorce doesn’t seem to be enough — shouldn’t someone pay for the anguish and shame the affair has caused you? Yes, according to Louisiana State University law professor and tort expert William R. Corbett, whose 2001 paper, […]
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Posted in Divorce, Marriage, Men, Sex, Women on Jan 9th, 2012
There have been lots of responses to my Huffington Post piece “Why Men Need to Cheat” (at last count, 4,042 comments and a lot of responses throughout the web, including one by Chopper Papa), but I then I got an email from a reader who calls himself U.G. Gold. Mr. Gold, a self-described conservative (take that, Culture […]
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Posted in Dating, Divorce, Marriage, Men, Sex, Women on Jan 7th, 2012
I shouldn’t be as surprised as I am about the responses to my latest Huffington Post piece, Why Men Need to Cheat — more than 3,800 comments! — but I am. I’m not surprised that the topic would upset people; hey, infidelity is a hot topic (because so many people have their lives touched by […]
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I have been thinking a lot about marriage recently. Not to be confused with thinking about marrying — I am not. Having done it twice, I think I’m pretty much done with that institution. I just can’t see how it would add anything to my wonderful relationship that I’m absolutely committed too (and vice versa). […]
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Posted in Family, Men, Stereotypes, Uncategorized on Sep 15th, 2011
Are men finished? That’s what Slate would have us believe — or at least it’s engaging the question. On Sept. 20, it will sponsor a live debate at NYU’s Skirball Center in New York with ABC News legal analyst Dan Abrams and journalist Hanna Rosin (you may know her from her controversial Atlantic article last […]
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Posted in Men, Stereotypes on Aug 1st, 2011
A few years ago, my older son expressed an interest in hunting. I was immediately turned off — killing animals? How disgusting! Never mind that this former 12-year vegetarian now eats chicken, fish, pork and the occasional burger without any hesitation, not to mention my (somewhat extensive) collection of leather shoes. If I eat animals, […]
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