A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Women on Oct 8th, 2013
The Good Men Project recently pondered, what’s a man without money? That’s a good question. I’ve never been one to focus on money — my own or someone else’s — or see it as a path to happiness. Now that I’m at midlife, however, and helping to get two kids through college, hoping to retire […]
Posted in Aging, Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Women on Oct 1st, 2013
Recently, National Geographic had a startling cover — a picture of a baby and a headline declaring, “This Baby Will Live To Be 120.” Thanks in part to technological advances as well as ever-increasing life expectancy, others say we could live to be 1,000 years old although many more believe an average life span of […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Men, Sex, Work on Jul 10th, 2013
Former New York Gov. Eliot L. Spitzer is ready to get back in politics, as is former congressman Anthony Weiner. You remember them — both had sex scandals that derailed them from their positions. We’re all too eager to oust politicians who have been unfaithful, and the last few years have brought a spate of […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Fathers, Men, Parenting, Stereotypes on Jun 4th, 2013
We’re coming up on Father’s Day, and even though I’m not a fan of Hallmark holidays the day will be nonetheless hard for me this year. My father passed away May 26, just a few weeks shy of his 89th birthday, so his death will be very fresh on the day to honor him. Although […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Fathers, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Sex, Singles on May 28th, 2013
I was at a party, the kind where bosoms, booze and mouths overflowed. There wasn’t much happening with my bosom, but my then-husband’s mouth was going for it. “You know,” he said to my dearest friend, “I like being married but living like I’m single.” When she shared that with me the next day we […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Men, Women on Apr 15th, 2013
There’s an image we have about marriage, about “two becoming one.” Anyone who’s been married for length of time realizes that’s a bit of a lie. We’re still people with our own needs. In fact, many believe what we experience is a “his” and a “her” marriage. Some 50 years ago, sociologist Jessie Bernard noted […]
Posted in Aging, Beauty, Children, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Sex, Women on Mar 19th, 2013
The HuffPo had a piece today on the double standard on weight gain for spouses. A woman had written to an advice columnist about how fat and lazy her longtime partner — whom she also describes as “intelligent, accomplished, emotionally mature, kind, loving, and funny” — had become, only to be told, “I’m sick, sick, […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Singles, Women on Mar 11th, 2013
As some of you know, Susan Pease Gadoua and I are co-writing The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels (and just snagged a literary agent, so things are really looking promising!) While it’s essential to talk about reinventing marriage to get the marriage you want, here’s an interesting question to ask […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Women on Feb 12th, 2013
It happened to Kris Humphries, it happened to Tom Cruise and it happens to people like you and me. Being blindsided by divorce. It seems odd — how can a spouse have absolutely no clue that his or her marriage is in trouble? Wouldn’t there be warning signs — a lack of interest in sex, […]
Posted in Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Sex, Women on Dec 17th, 2012
Despite the fact that there hasn’t been any big infidelity news of late (but … give it time!), HuffPost’s divorce section has been having a bit of a run on stories on affairs, one of which was written by Tracy Schorn, who suggested in Seven Ways to Leave a Cheater that people who plan to […]
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