A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Children, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships, Romantic relationships on Feb 12th, 2018
We’re in the middle of National Marriage Week, a campaign that seeks to strengthen marriage and that ends on Valentine’s Day. Few would argue against strong marriages, but the truth is more young people are delaying or avoiding marriage. Meanwhile, more older people are divorcing like crazy and either happily living alone or living together […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Midlife, Relationships on Feb 6th, 2018
When my marriage was falling apart, my former husband and I went to marital counselors to help us. The first one was useless. The second one patiently listened to our story, one that included infidelity — how common! — and keep saying, “OK, but let’s talk about the drinking.” My former husband didn’t want to […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Family, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Relationships, Sex, Women on Jan 30th, 2018
You’re pregnant with your first child. Can’t speak what that’s like for a man but for a woman who has maybe wanted to be a mom for a long time, and who sometimes wondered if that was going to happen, it’s a wonderful, scary, exhausting, overwhelming thing. I’m sure it was for Melania Trump, too, […]
Posted in Beauty, Coupledom, Dating, Expectations, Happiness, Heartbreak, Love, Marriage, Men, Millennials, Mothers, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex, Singles, Women on Jan 15th, 2018
We’re coming up on Valentine’s Day, the day we celebrate romantic love. But what, exactly, is romantic love? If someone asked you, “What does love mean to you?” how would you answer? Would you say it’s wonderful or would you say love hurts? Or is it some combination? Most of us have our own definition […]
Posted in Expectations, Happiness, Live Apart Together, Marriage, Needs, Relationships, Sex, Women on Jan 9th, 2018
Fire and Fury: Inside the Trump White House, a scathing look at Donald Trump, was just published , and while there are many shocking and horrific revelations in author Michael Wolff’s book, here are two that shouldn’t be: Trump and his wife, Melania, sleep in separate bedrooms, and they don’t spend a lot of time […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Happiness, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Needs, Parenting, Relationships, Women on Jan 2nd, 2018
It’s January, a new year and the beginning of what’s known as “divorce month.” But when you file for divorce doesn’t really matter — what matters is how you divorce, especially if you have young children. Say what you will about Gwyenth Paltrow and her vaginal jade eggs, and Goop’s $290 sweat set, but there’s […]
Posted in Beauty, Children, Dating, Expectations, Family, Gender, Happiness, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Women on Dec 26th, 2017
You know the drill — men want to date and marry a younger, beautiful woman and women want to date and marry men who have money and status. Is that still true today? Well, yes and no. In an article originally published at Aeon that has been republished under Creative Commons, professor of psychology Marcel […]
Posted in Beta marriage, Divorce, Expectations, Happiness, Marital plan, Marriage, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Women on Dec 12th, 2017
I am a champion of short-term love. That is how I have lived my entire life although, granted, I did say, “I do” twice with the presumption that those marriages would be forever. That’s all I knew, that was the romantic script; I didn’t know that we had choices. But we do. I have long […]
Posted in Children, Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Family, Live Apart Together, Love, Marriage, Midlife, Needs, Parenting, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex on Dec 5th, 2017
It’s December, beginning of engagement season. So if you’ve already gotten a ring, or hoping to get one this month, there’s just one thing left to do after you’re told your loved ones and friends, and posted your bling on Facebook and Instagram. No, not start planning your wedding — start planning your marriage. First […]
Posted in Beta marriage, Expectations, Family, Live Apart Together, Marriage, Relationships, Weddings, Wife, Women on Nov 28th, 2017
The big news this week was the announcement that Prince Harry and girlfriend Meghan Markle became engaged and are planning to marry in the spring. Although some may say her prince has come, theirs is no fairy-tale romance — Markle is a thoroughly out-of the-box modern bride. At 36, she’s older than her husband-to-be, who’s […]
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