Tall, dark, attractive, blue-eyed, blond, intelligent, athletic, funny, fit, shapely — certain traits turn us on when it comes to finding someone to love. But with couples breaking up all the time and a 50 percent or so divorce rate, those traits mean little when it comes to what really matters — finding someone who […]
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Posted in Divorce, Marriage, Midlife, Singles, Women on Jan 30th, 2012
It’s the era of The Single. New York University sociologist Eric Klinenberg’s new book, Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone, which arrives next week, is getting a lot of buzz. Why? As Klinenberg points out in an article in Fortune magazine (adapted from his book): Only 51% of adults today are […]
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Posted in Divorce, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Sex, Women on Jan 20th, 2012
You’re married and you discover that your spouse is unfaithful. You’re devastated and consider getting a divorce. But, divorce doesn’t seem to be enough — shouldn’t someone pay for the anguish and shame the affair has caused you? Yes, according to Louisiana State University law professor and tort expert William R. Corbett, whose 2001 paper, […]
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Posted in Divorce, Marriage, Men, Sex, Women on Jan 9th, 2012
There have been lots of responses to my Huffington Post piece “Why Men Need to Cheat” (at last count, 4,042 comments and a lot of responses throughout the web, including one by Chopper Papa), but I then I got an email from a reader who calls himself U.G. Gold. Mr. Gold, a self-described conservative (take that, Culture […]
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Posted in Dating, Divorce, Marriage, Men, Sex, Women on Jan 7th, 2012
I shouldn’t be as surprised as I am about the responses to my latest Huffington Post piece, Why Men Need to Cheat — more than 3,800 comments! — but I am. I’m not surprised that the topic would upset people; hey, infidelity is a hot topic (because so many people have their lives touched by […]
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Posted in Divorce, Marriage, Midlife, Sex on Dec 28th, 2011
At a holiday get-together this weekend, friend and I were talking about what we’d do if could let go of our real jobs (and health insurance) and reinvent ourselves. Curiously, we both would immerse ourselves in art — she, paper mache, me, collage — not unlike what longtime broadcast journalist Dana King is doing with […]
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When the anatomically correct, customizable, touch-responsive, personality-changing sexbot named Roxxxy was unveiled at the Adult Entertainment Expo in 2010, it — she? — was met with a lot of snarky responses. Only losers and perverts would be interested in shelling out $7,000 for a glorified sex toy, many said. Inventor and TrueCompanion founder Douglas Hines […]
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I have been thinking a lot about marriage recently. Not to be confused with thinking about marrying — I am not. Having done it twice, I think I’m pretty much done with that institution. I just can’t see how it would add anything to my wonderful relationship that I’m absolutely committed too (and vice versa). […]
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I am about to say something that many might consider blasphemous — I don’t think couples should live together. Now, before you cast me as some pro-marriage, uber-conservative who has been reading one too many National Marriage Project (NMP) studies, be assured I am not. At the risk of sounding somewhat Orwellian, let me clarify: […]
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I was at a memorial service recently, the most moving and beautiful service I’d ever been to. Fortunately, I haven’t been to too many — although I know that will change in future years. My friend’s husband was a famed illustrator and a beloved art teacher, and the speakers — whether friends, fellow teachers and […]
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