What are we going to do with the kids? Society seems to value kids, yet we aren’t doing much to help raise them well. It’s clear the efforts to make divorce harder for those couples with minor children isn’t going to work and who knows if making marriage harder would work either. But maybe it […]
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Posted in Children, Expectations, Marriage on Feb 25th, 2013
“How would your marriage be different if you had been handed an honest, comprehensive guide on what to expect after the wedding?” That’s the question Sheryl Paul asks in her article “Premarital Wisdom: The Truth About Marriage” in the Huffington Post Weddings section this week. On the surface that sounds like a cool thing. Really, […]
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One of the best parts of the online world is reading comments section. In the past, readers of traditional media wouldn’t be able to have much of a say unless they wrote a letter to the editor (and even that was no guarantee it would get published). So, I enjoyed reading the 390 comments to […]
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It happened to Kris Humphries, it happened to Tom Cruise and it happens to people like you and me. Being blindsided by divorce. It seems odd — how can a spouse have absolutely no clue that his or her marriage is in trouble? Wouldn’t there be warning signs — a lack of interest in sex, […]
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I had the pleasure of interviewing Daniel Smith last week in advance of his visit to Marin. Smith is the author of Monkey Mind, a painfully honest an extremely funny account of what it’s like to live with debilitating anxiety and its destructive absurdities. In it, he describes how he lost and then won back […]
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I’ve been reading the blogs and writings of other divorcees for some time now and one thing is clear — not all divorcees are created equal. Some still seem so bitter and angry at their former spouse; they’re still pointing fingers at him even if they’re many years past into their divorce. Am I the […]
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At yesterday’s inaugural speech, President Obama strongly hinted that he may endorse marriage for gays and lesbians as an equal right under the Constitution: “Our journey is not complete until our gay brothers and sisters are treated like anyone else under the law, for if we are truly created equal, then surely the love we […]
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“So, what are you and ‘J’ going to do?” a friend asked recently. ‘J’ is my boyfriend and we do a lot of things, some of which are not appropriate to discuss publicly. “What do you mean?” “Are you ever going to get married or live together or something like that?” Oh, that question. It’s […]
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I’m really happy I’m not in my 20s and looking for love in 2013. It’s not that I love being middle-aged (although I’ve accepted it and am aging as gracefully as I can). It’s just that I remember when things were, well, different. I’m old enough to remember when a guy asked you out on […]
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Posted in Expectations, Marriage, Sex, Stereotypes on Dec 31st, 2012
If all goes well, Crystal Harris and Hugh Hefner will be wed tonight, New Year’s Eve. I know what many people — perhaps even you — are thinking. She’s 26, he’s 86, and let’s not pretend that a 60-year-difference in age doesn’t mean something. For some, it means Harris is a gold-digger, for some it […]
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