A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Dec 16th, 2013
Local gal Kate Schermerhorn, who made the wonderful documentary After Happily Ever After, has an interesting column in HuffPost weddings section this week — “What is love? Help wanted.” Of the 10 items she lists as what love is and isn’t, she says if she had to put a one-word soundbite on it, it would […]
Posted in Aging, Children, Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Midlife, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Sex, Stereotypes, Women on Dec 10th, 2013
Despite societal myths about older women no longer mattering sexually, I have never met a midlife mom post-divorce who didn’t want to be appreciated and embraced as a sexual being. That’s not to say that there weren’t some women who were perfectly content to surrender their sexual identity to focus on raising their children or […]
Posted in Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships on Dec 2nd, 2013
Oh, love! My co-author Susan Pease Gadoua’s article in Psychology Today, “Three reasons why you shouldn’t marry for love,” has hit a nerve. It had more than 111,000 hits in a week, and we have had dozens and dozens of emails from people in response, many who agree. What does that say about love and […]
Posted in Expectations, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Oct 29th, 2013
I decided to “like” Psychology Today’s page on Facebook today, and while scrolling through the stories highlighted, I was intrigued by the teaser, “While it takes two to couple up, it takes only one to make things a whole lot better.” OK, sold, so I clicked on the link that lead to an article highlighting […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships on Oct 22nd, 2013
I have been married twice and while I loved both my former husbands (well, at the time), neither was my “best friend.” Is that why I’m twice divorced? The answer might depend on whom I ask. People and so-called relationship experts are all over the map on the answer. Over at Thought Catalog, it’s a […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Millennials, Relationships on Oct 15th, 2013
Men and women are pushing back marriage — if they’re even getting married, that is. While our parents may have married in their early 20s, most women nowadays are marrying at 27 and most men at 29. Should we really be worried? Delaying marriage has its perks, especially if you’re a woman: Women accumulate more […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Women on Oct 8th, 2013
The Good Men Project recently pondered, what’s a man without money? That’s a good question. I’ve never been one to focus on money — my own or someone else’s — or see it as a path to happiness. Now that I’m at midlife, however, and helping to get two kids through college, hoping to retire […]
Posted in Aging, Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Women on Oct 1st, 2013
Recently, National Geographic had a startling cover — a picture of a baby and a headline declaring, “This Baby Will Live To Be 120.” Thanks in part to technological advances as well as ever-increasing life expectancy, others say we could live to be 1,000 years old although many more believe an average life span of […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships, Singles, Stereotypes on Sep 24th, 2013
I had to create security questions for online banking this week — no biggie, right? — but as I scrolled through my choices, I was somewhat taken aback. Three of the seven questions I could choose from assumed I was married, wanting to know where I went on my honeymoon, what my spouse’s middle name […]
Posted in Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Sep 17th, 2013
A few years ago, a friend pooh-poohed the idea of open relationships. “They only work until someone better comes along, and then the new partners decide to be exclusive,” my friend said. It was an interesting commentary from someone who had been unfaithful and eventually left the marriage (granted, it was an unhappy marriage to […]
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