A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Expectations, Live Apart Together, Marriage, Midlife, Relationships on Mar 21st, 2017
The secret to a happy marriage may mean living apart together in separate master suites, a recent Wall Street Journal article declared. Not everyone lives in a “4,700 square-foot Tudor home” or wants to, but without a doubt, more people, especially older people (like — *sigh* — me) are interested in having a room — […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Sex, Wife, Women on Feb 14th, 2017
Oh, Suzanne Venker. Your marriage was in trouble. You admit that your “alpha ways were bumping up against” your husband’s “alpha nature,” that you were “like two bulls hanging out in the same pen together, and there was too much friction.” So you decided you needed to become more feminine because it worked in your […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Feb 7th, 2017
If we are to take the new 60 Minutes/Vanity Fair poll on marriage to heart, then Americans are still stuck in some sort of happily-ever-after rom-com version of wedded bliss. But like a lot of polls, the ways questions are phrased, what gets asked and what doesn’t, and who gets asked and who doesn’t have […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Coupledom, Expectations, Heartbreak, Love, Marriage, Relationships on Jan 24th, 2017
We are approaching Valentine’s Day, the most romantic time of the year, according to many. It’s when we buy a card and chocolates in heart-shaped boxes, and profess our love to our one true love. But what if you have two true loves? If you’re Carrie Jenkins, a philosophy professor at the University of British […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Millennials, Parenting, Relationships on Jan 17th, 2017
The Weeknd, the 26-year-old Grammy-winning singer who recently started dating Selena Gomez, is pretty sure he wants to have kids. But he fears marriage. “I feel like I’m the kind of guy that would have kids before getting married,” he told GQ. “The first thing would be kids. Marriage is scary to me, man.” As […]
Posted in Caregiving, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships, Wife, Women on Jan 10th, 2017
I’m not one to live in regrets. My feeling is, if I’m happy where I am right now then everything before this point, good and bad, got me here. That’s good enough. But every once and a while, I come across the “what I wish I knew before ….” articles, including ones on “what I […]
Posted in Caregiving, Coupledom, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Wife, Women, Work on Jan 3rd, 2017
There’s an odd thing that happens whenever women write about how marriage is a better deal for men than women — men want to argue that we’re wrong. Marriage is bad for men, then say and then they back up their arguments by talking about … divorce. They complain that women get alimony, or spousal […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Relationships, Sex, Single parents on Dec 27th, 2016
Ever since the second International Congress on Love and Sex with Robots took place a few weeks ago, there have been a deluge of articles talking about marriage between humans and robots and how sexbots might impact marriages, for better or worse. For every robot enthusiast, like artificial intelligent expert and Love and Sex With […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marital plan, Marriage, Relationships on Dec 13th, 2016
Let’s face it — there’s no way to divorce-proof a marriage. You know it and I know it even if so-called marriage “experts” tell you there is. As I’ve written before, you can’t control another person’s behaviors and therefore if your spouse wants out, he or she is going to get out. That’s how it […]
Posted in Children, Cohabitation, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships on Nov 28th, 2016
The news that Melania Trump will live apart from her husband, President-elect Donald Trump for a few months until their son Barron, 10, finished school, was shocking to many people. While it may seem odd that a married couple doesn’t live together, the Trumps’ decision to live apart is actually part of a growing trend […]
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