A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Sex, Singles, Women on Sep 5th, 2017
It’s an old saying but most of us have heard it — “Why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free?” That’s a phrase that’s both dated and sexist, so to hear it re-branded as “cheap sex” — aka casual sex — and purported to be the reason men aren’t committing and […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Renewable marriage on Aug 29th, 2017
“For life. No one wants anything ‘for life.’ It just reminds us of our impending death.” So starts Lake Bell’s new movie, “I Do … Until I Don’t,” which explores the sorry state of marriage and the promise of a seven-year marital contract. I was incredible excited to learn about this film — its premise […]
Posted in Expectations, Happiness, Marriage, Relationships on Aug 1st, 2017
What do you want out of life, happiness or meaning? I’ve been reading an advance copy of Eli J. Finkel’s The All-Or-Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work, which comes out this September. I’m excited about it for a few reasons, one because The New I Do is mentioned in it — thank you, Eli! […]
Posted in Children, Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Family, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Jul 4th, 2017
Jay-Z just released his latest album, 4:44, and it’s gathering the same buzz as the last record put out by his wife, Beyoncé — not just for the music, but because of what they’re talking about. In last year’s Lemonade, Beyoncé alluded to her husband’s alleged infidelity — remember that video showing Beyoncé’s sister Solange physically […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships on Jun 6th, 2017
Recently, a dating coach for women got upset with me on social media. He works with clients who want to get married one day, and, as a happily married man himself, he thought some of the articles I’d written or tweeted are anti-marriage. What do I have against marriage, he wondered. Except here’s the truth: I […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Relationships on May 30th, 2017
I’ve been married and divorced twice, but when I divorced the first time — in my 20s, with no children — I never paid attention to any articles about reinventing myself as a divorcee. Not to say that there weren’t articles about that; perhaps there were but this was in the days before the internet […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex, Stereotypes on Apr 18th, 2017
Back when my New I Do co-author and I were doing research for our book and interviewing engaged couples about why they wanted to wed (most were already living together), one groom-to-be mentioned sex among the many reasons. “You want to marry for sex?” his fiancee asked, somewhat horrified. He immediately got sheepish as he […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marital plan, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Wife on Apr 11th, 2017
A few months ago, singer Janet Jackson made news by becoming a first-time mother at age 50, to a baby boy Eissa. This week, she made news again — she and her husband, Qatari businessman Wissam Al Mana, have separated. According to Page Six, a family source said Jackson became aware of cultural problems between […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Sex, Women on Apr 4th, 2017
What would you be willing to do to have an affair-proof marriage? Would you go so far as Vice President Mike Pence, whose agreement with his wife, Karen — both evangelical Christians — became public last week? The Washington Post reported, “In 2002, Mike Pence told the Hill that he never eats alone with a […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Politics, Relationships, Sex on Mar 28th, 2017
Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner have evidently bounced back from a much-publicized “strained period” during which she almost filed for divorce. Affleck recently finished rehab in hopes of becoming a better father. They’re not back together, People reports, but a source described as close to Garner said the actress has backed off from filing for […]
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