A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Expectations, Love, Relationships, Singles, Women on Feb 9th, 2016
Anyone who has read this blog for a bit knows I’m not a fan of Valentine’s Day, and I’m certainly not alone in that. Yet, here I am, finding myself writing about V-Day for the third year in a row. Well, so much for ignoring the holiday! I do, actually, ignore the holiday in my […]
Posted in Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Love, Midlife, Relationships, Sex, Women on Jan 5th, 2016
We all “know” that women aren’t good at casual sex, “only” have affairs for love, are biologically disinterested in sex, and that, more so than men, “need” and thrive in a monogamous relationship. Maybe that’s been your experience, maybe not. Maybe you believe it, maybe you don’t. But have you ever questioned if this is […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Gender, LGBT, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Stereotypes on Dec 15th, 2015
“Whatever, love is love,” actress Maria Bello’s 12-year-old son Jackson said to her when she told him that she had fallen in love with a longtime family friend — and a woman. In her Modern Love essay in 2013 and her book, Whatever … Love Is Love: Questioning The Labels We Give Ourselves, which came […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Family, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Stereotypes on Oct 27th, 2015
Marriage is hard work but worth it. If you end up divorced, it means you didn’t try hard enough, you don’t know what commitment means and you’re putting you own happiness before your family’s — or all of the above — and that’s why you have a failed marriage. What divorced person hasn’t heard that […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Oct 20th, 2015
I have been thinking about security lately, not in an Ashley Madison hack kind of way, but the way we seek security in romantic relations and what we gain — and give up — to have it. It was spurred by watching Vicky Cristina Barcelona again, the 2008 Woody Allen movie that explores the very […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Heartbreak, Love, Relationships on Oct 13th, 2015
I had been thinking about heartbreak. It wasn’t that I was experiencing any at that particular time, but like every who has lived a few decades, I’ve had my share of it. And I wondered — did my experience with the often excruciatingly painful reality of heartbreak influence how I moved forward in love and […]
Posted in Expectations, Love, Marital plan, Marriage, Relationships, Weddings on Sep 29th, 2015
A month or so ago, I offered to work with a newlywed couple to create a marital plan. I got a polite, thanks but we’re just too busy and [new husband] isn’t too interested anyway. My The New I Do co-author Susan posited a similar question her friend about to marry. “Oh, we’re good,” the […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Stereotypes on Sep 8th, 2015
If you’re as selfie-obsessed as so many others seem to be, you might be aware of Chris and Shannon Neuman, the Canadian couple whose smiling selfie outside the court house, where they were about to end their 11-year marriage, went viral. I usually don’t pay too much attention to selfie news, and so I ignored […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships on Aug 25th, 2015
The Ashley Madison hack is still topic No. 1 in the media — from divorce attorneys predicting a “Christmas in July” boon to their business, to potential extortion threats and suicides because of the sensitive information leaked, to continued shaming of those whose names were found on the site’s database — and it doesn’t look […]
Posted in Beta marriage, Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Love, Relationships, Singles on Aug 18th, 2015
Evidently, love is dead. At least, that’s what far too many websites and magazines stated when rockers Gwen Stefani and Gavin Rossdale called it quits after 13 years of marriage and three kids. But then again, the same was said about Kermit and Miss Piggy as well as Blake Shelton and Miranda Lambert, Will Arnett […]
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