A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Children, Expectations, Family, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Relationships, Sex, Women on Jan 30th, 2018
You’re pregnant with your first child. Can’t speak what that’s like for a man but for a woman who has maybe wanted to be a mom for a long time, and who sometimes wondered if that was going to happen, it’s a wonderful, scary, exhausting, overwhelming thing. I’m sure it was for Melania Trump, too, […]
Posted in Beauty, Coupledom, Dating, Expectations, Happiness, Heartbreak, Love, Marriage, Men, Millennials, Mothers, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex, Singles, Women on Jan 15th, 2018
We’re coming up on Valentine’s Day, the day we celebrate romantic love. But what, exactly, is romantic love? If someone asked you, “What does love mean to you?” how would you answer? Would you say it’s wonderful or would you say love hurts? Or is it some combination? Most of us have our own definition […]
Posted in Children, Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Family, Live Apart Together, Love, Marriage, Midlife, Needs, Parenting, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex on Dec 5th, 2017
It’s December, beginning of engagement season. So if you’ve already gotten a ring, or hoping to get one this month, there’s just one thing left to do after you’re told your loved ones and friends, and posted your bling on Facebook and Instagram. No, not start planning your wedding — start planning your marriage. First […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Cohabitation, Expectations, Family, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Single parents on Nov 14th, 2017
Do we need marriage? The answer might be Iceland. For much of history, marriage mattered. It was a way to make sure property could be passed to heirs, alliances could be forged (often to avoid wars), children could be reared, society could be assured that caregiving would be taken care of and a lot of […]
Posted in Coupledom, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Wife, Women on Nov 7th, 2017
It’s your anniversary (Aw.) You buy your spouse a card, a gift, make plans for a special getaway (and if you have kids, you arrange for someone to care for them for the dinner/weekend away) and that should be it — right? Well, it used to be all that was needed. but nowadays you have […]
Posted in Aging, Cohabitation, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Renewable marriage, Romantic relationships on Oct 10th, 2017
The funny thing about marriage (well, there are many, but let’s narrow it down) is that lots of people seem to have a “secret” that will magically transform everyone’s marriage into a manageable, doable and supposedly happy union. Like this week’s Modern Love written by Gabrielle Zevin — except her secret to marriage isn’t necessarily […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Mothers, Needs, Parenting, Relationships, Sex, Single parents, Women on Oct 3rd, 2017
You’re in love with your partner and your partner loves you and you strongly believe that if two people love each other, then there’s no reason why they shouldn’t have a child together. Except your partner doesn’t want children — now what? That’s the dilemma Heather Harpham faced, which she writes about in her memoir […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Sex, Singles, Women on Sep 5th, 2017
It’s an old saying but most of us have heard it — “Why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free?” That’s a phrase that’s both dated and sexist, so to hear it re-branded as “cheap sex” — aka casual sex — and purported to be the reason men aren’t committing and […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Renewable marriage on Aug 29th, 2017
“For life. No one wants anything ‘for life.’ It just reminds us of our impending death.” So starts Lake Bell’s new movie, “I Do … Until I Don’t,” which explores the sorry state of marriage and the promise of a seven-year marital contract. I was incredible excited to learn about this film — its premise […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Love, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Women on Jul 25th, 2017
Many people made fun of Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin’s conscious uncoupling a few years ago. But it’s evident that they have influenced a number of other newly divorced celebrity parents who are raising kids together to put aside their anger and differences and come together for their family. (Sienna Miller even admits to doing […]
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