A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex on Oct 8th, 2019
No matter what kind of punishment society puts on people’s sexual lives, they are most likely still going to risk it.
Posted in Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Needs, Relationships, Sex, Stereotypes, Women on Sep 3rd, 2019
Recently, I was asked why my former husband cheated on me. I hadn’t really been asked that before although I certainly have talked openly about his affair — how it impacted me, our kids, our marriage, etc., etc. But why he had an affair? That was a new one, so I had to think, all […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Happiness, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Needs, Relationships, Sex, Wife, Women on Jul 2nd, 2019
I’m not sure how many men read articles or buy books about marriage, and I say this as the co-author of a book on marriage. Although men have historically gained the most from the institution, it’s generally women who are attuned to a relationship’s temperature and, thus, are most likely to read up on how […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships on Mar 26th, 2019
Felicity Huffman’s scandal and Kellyanne Conway’s misplaced support prove that there’s always an asterisk when it comes to commitment in a marriage.
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Gender, Infidelity, Marital plan, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Wife, Women, Work on Jan 15th, 2019
Jeff and MacKenzie Bezos both contributed to the wealth of their family. She isn’t “walking away” or being “awarded” that wealth: she earned it.
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Needs, Relationships, Sex, Women on Sep 18th, 2018
For many years everything I read and heard, and thus believed, is that women aren’t good at casual sex, only have affairs for love, eventually become disinterested in sex and do best in monogamous relationships. OK, but my lived experience proved otherwise. True, I’ve been a serial monogamist, which I interpret as being pretty good […]
Posted in Aging, Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Happiness, Heartbreak, Infidelity, Marriage, Mothers, Politics, Relationships on Sep 4th, 2018
This past week, the country mourned for U.S. Sen. John McCain, who died Aug. 25 at age 81. He was lauded by Barack Obama, Joe Biden and others as a hero, a friend, a voice of reason, an “extraordinary man.” While I didn’t necessarily agree with McCain’s politics, I agree that he was a man […]
Posted in Expectations, Happiness, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex on Aug 7th, 2018
“What is it that stops young women from having as much sexual agency as they should have, which includes being able to say no when you want to and yes when you want to?” Laura Kipnis told me when I interviewed her not long after her book, Unwanted Advances: Sexual Paranoia Comes to Campus was […]
Posted in Aging, Caregiving, Divorce, Expectations, Happiness, Infidelity, Marital plan, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Millennials, Needs, Parenting, Relationship contract, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Women on Jul 31st, 2018
While divorce isn’t nearly the 50 percent of all marriages we’ve been lead to believe, there’s one group that has seen the rate of divorce skyrocket — boomers, or those aged 50 and older, aka gray divorce. OK, great, but if you’re not a boomer, does it even matter? Well, yeah. Because even if you’re […]
Posted in Expectations, Heartbreak, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Jun 19th, 2018
They were crazy in love in the beginning, but in the past few years, we’ve learned a lot more about Beyoncé and Jay-Z’s marriage, from Beyoncé’s allegations of Jay-Z’s infidelities in her 2016 album Lemonade to Jay-Z’s confession and remorse in his 2017 album 4:44, which seemingly led to a reconciliation not long after Beyoncé […]
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