Posted in Aging, Caregiving, Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Needs, Relationships, Women on Sep 25th, 2018
There’s been a lot of talk about so-called gray divorces — people aged 50 and older who exit their often long-term marriage for a variety of reasons. Some look forward to their newfound freedom as singles, some seek casual arrangements, some are eager to partner again but not marry, and some remarry and replicate the […]
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Posted in Beta marriage, Divorce, Expectations, Happiness, Live Apart Together, Love, Marriage, Needs, Relationships, Renewable marriage, Sex on Sep 11th, 2018
A few weeks ago, I heard from Christina Hoff Sommers and Danielle Crittenden, creators of the Femsplainers podcast, who kindly asked me to join them for Season Two and talk about reshaping marriage a la The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels. And so I did. Sommers, the author of five […]
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Posted in Aging, Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Happiness, Heartbreak, Infidelity, Marriage, Mothers, Politics, Relationships on Sep 4th, 2018
This past week, the country mourned for U.S. Sen. John McCain, who died Aug. 25 at age 81. He was lauded by Barack Obama, Joe Biden and others as a hero, a friend, a voice of reason, an “extraordinary man.” While I didn’t necessarily agree with McCain’s politics, I agree that he was a man […]
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Posted in Aging, Consensual nonmonogamy, Dating, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Midlife, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex, Singles on Aug 28th, 2018
Four years ago, I explored dating at midlife, which has proven to be one of my more popular posts. Four years ago — when I was four years younger than I am now, sigh — I noted that a number of my 50-something, empty-nester, divorced female friends had happily found love again. Some cohabited. Some […]
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“What is it that stops young women from having as much sexual agency as they should have, which includes being able to say no when you want to and yes when you want to?” Laura Kipnis told me when I interviewed her not long after her book, Unwanted Advances: Sexual Paranoia Comes to Campus was […]
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Posted in Aging, Caregiving, Divorce, Expectations, Happiness, Infidelity, Marital plan, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Millennials, Needs, Parenting, Relationship contract, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Women on Jul 31st, 2018
While divorce isn’t nearly the 50 percent of all marriages we’ve been lead to believe, there’s one group that has seen the rate of divorce skyrocket — boomers, or those aged 50 and older, aka gray divorce. OK, great, but if you’re not a boomer, does it even matter? Well, yeah. Because even if you’re […]
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If you’re a woman of any dateable age, you have probably heard some version of this: have fun with the bad boys but marry the good guy. Women are constantly told we should want good guys, nice guys, and really — who doesn’t want a good guy? But what if he’s a good guy but […]
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Posted in Aging, Children, Coupledom, Expectations, Family, Happiness, Midlife, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Singles on Jul 10th, 2018
When my first marriage ended and I spent several years as a single woman in my mid- to late-20s, contentedly dating but not meeting any kind of man I’d want to partner with — OK, it was Miami in the ’80s so maybe it was a Miami thing — I remember thinking, well, I just […]
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Dear Ann: Help! My partner and I purchased a robot to care for our two boys, 2 and 4. We both liked the Ingrid model for her sweet face and pleasant disposition, with a Waldorf-like approach to child rearing. Plus, she easily managed to do some light housekeeping chores, turning into a game with the […]
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There are many myths about marriage and there’s a lot of bad advice about marriage, but one thing is true: modern marriages would benefit from relationship contracts. So I was truly surprised to read an article by John Gottman and Christopher Dollard of the Gottman Institute, Five myths about marriage, claiming it’s a myth that […]
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