A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Expectations, Happiness, Marital plan, Millennials, Needs, Relationship contract, Relationships, Romantic relationships on Feb 26th, 2019
Relationship contracts aren’t really about limiting a partner’s NPR listening and football watching.
Posted in Aging, Dating, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Midlife, Relationships, Romantic relationships on Jan 29th, 2019
At midlife, many of us are not following the typical romantic script. We may have been hoping for love, but we didn’t necessarily expect it. And that turns out to be a gift.
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Gender, Happiness, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Needs, Parenting, Relationships, Single parents, Wife, Women, Work on Jan 22nd, 2019
The transition into motherhood impacts a woman in numerous ways and the decisions that are made in the first critical weeks after birth have long-lasting and often unhappy consequences for a marriage.
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Cohabitation, Expectations, Family, Happiness, Love, Marital plan, Men, Needs, Relationship contract, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Women on Dec 11th, 2018
When Mandy Len Catron wrote about her relationship contract with her partner in the New York Times’ Modern Love, it get a lot less love than her earlier and much-read Modern Love essay on the 36 questions that can lead you to fall in love with anyone, which led to her charming and insightful book, […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Gender, Happiness, Marriage, Men, Millennials, Mothers, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Wife, Women, Work on Dec 4th, 2018
When I wed for the second time, my hubby and I knew we wanted to have kids. We agreed that we wanted someone to be at home, and since he was older and much more established in his career than I was, we decided he’d be the breadwinner and I’d be the homemaker. Still, I […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Coupledom, Expectations, Happiness, Heartbreak, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex on Nov 20th, 2018
It’s almost Thanksgiving, the beginning of the holiday season and the kick off of “engagement season.” The pressures around the holidays make many of us unhappy, and even if we’re generally OK with our situations — partnered or not — it’s hard not to buy into the whole “most wonderful time of the year” thing. […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Needs, Politics, Relationships, Wife, Women on Nov 13th, 2018
On the surface, it would be hard to find a more picture-perfect healthy, happy marriage — especially an uber-public marriage — than Michelle and Barack Obama’s. Despite the temptation to compare our romantic relationships with the curated happy relationships we often see on Instagram and Facebook — and some of us are guilty of that […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships on Nov 6th, 2018
Someone loves you — in a romantic way — and you love that person in return. Do you have an obligation to try to stay alive as long as possible because it would be painful for your partner if you die? That’s an issue brought up in Free Solo, a new documentary about Alex Honnold, […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Happiness, Marriage, Needs, Parenting, Relationships on Oct 9th, 2018
Beautiful Boy is hitting the movie theaters next week, a film based on the best-selling books by father and son David and Nic Sheff. It’s a heart wrenching look at addiction — extremely timely, as overdoses are now the leading cause of death of Americans under the age of 50. But the back story is […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Midlife, Parenting, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Weddings on Oct 2nd, 2018
Gwyneth Paltrow married for the second time, to Brad Falchuk, this past week, after her 11-year marriage to Chris Martin famously consciously uncoupled in 2014. Paltrow is now 46; this marriage won’t be about having children together — she has two with Martin and Falchuk, 47, has two from his 10-year marriage to Suzanne Bukinik, […]
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