A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Expectations, Friends, Gender, LGBT, Men, Relationships, Stereotypes on Oct 22nd, 2019
As soon as I got the Airbnb inquiry from a man to rent the bedroom in my house for one night so he and his (unnamed) friend could take part in a race early the next day, I had a gut reaction. I’ve had experience with friends sharing an Airbnb before. “To be clear,” I […]
Posted in Aging, Caregiving, Divorce, Expectations, Friends, Love, Marriage, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex on May 21st, 2019
Could we ever move beyond our romantic-sexual connection to our spouse or former spouse and just connect on a deeper intimacy that brought us together in the first place?
Posted in Children, Family, Friends, Marriage, Relationships, Singles on Feb 27th, 2018
We attach a lot of meaning to marriage — love, commitment, children, financial security, etc. But does marriage make you a family? That’s what attorney, feminist writer, author and newlywed Jill Filipovic claimed recently in an article on why she changed her mind about marriage. It was not an easy decision for her — marriage […]
Posted in Coupledom, Divorce, Expectations, Friends, Happiness, Heartbreak, Marital plan, Marriage, Needs, Relationships, Renewable marriage, Romantic relationships, Women on Sep 26th, 2017
When Anna Faris and Chris Pratt announced their separation, fans were crushed — it certainly one of those oft-repeated celebrity “love is dead moments.” The couple, who had been married since 2009 and have a 5-year-old son, seemed to be a great fit. So then, what happened? Life happened. While we can never know the […]
Posted in Expectations, Friends, Happiness, Marriage, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships on Sep 12th, 2017
Should your spouse be your everything and fulfill all your needs — be your best friend; passionate lover; devoted parent; soul mate; great communicator; romantic, and intellectual and professional equal who provides you with happiness, fulfillment, financial stability, intimacy, social status, fidelity … ? That’s what marriage has become, as my co-author and I detail […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Friends, Relationships, Romantic relationships on Aug 8th, 2017
A few years ago, I broke up with someone I had been seeing for about a year. Because of age differences and life circumstance, we agreed from the beginning that it was not a relationship that was going to “go somewhere,” but we genuinely liked each other. So when it ended I said, “Let’s still […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Friends, Love, Relationships on Aug 9th, 2016
I’ve long been a fan of the writings of Meg-John Barker, a psychology lecturer and sex and gender therapist whose book, Rewriting the Rules, is a must-read for those who question the romantic love script most of us tend to follow as if it’s the only path available to us. So I was not surprised […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Family, Friends, Marriage, Millennials, Relationships, Singles, Wife on Mar 1st, 2016
I have been reading, and enjoying, Rebecca Traister’s comprehensive new book, All the Single Ladies: Unmarried Women and the Rise of an Independent Nation, as well as all the various articles about it and interviews with her. It’s a smart, engaging look at the numerous women in recent decades who are living happily independently and […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Family, Friends, LGBT, Marriage, Millennials, Relationships on Oct 6th, 2015
Lena Dunham is in a bind. In March, the Girls creator boldly told Ellen DeGeneres that she and her boyfriend of three years, Jack Antonoff, would not be tying the knot until same-sex couples could, too — a noble gesture that Brad Pitt announced at one point, but then he and Angelina Jolie went ahead and […]
Posted in Aging, Cohabitation, Expectations, Family, Friends, Midlife, Millennials, Relationships, Single parents, Singles on Sep 1st, 2015
“A place to live is also a way to live.” From the buzz around Kate Bolick’s book Spinster: Making a Life of One’s Own to the unfortunate language Supreme Court Justice Anthony Kennedy used in writing the opinion legalizing same-sex marriage, of the unmarried being “condemned to live in loneliness,” the state of singles […]
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