A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Children, Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Relationships on Nov 4th, 2013
I’m sure I was as surprised as anyone else to read that Norway is promoting date nights for couples as a way to stop the country’s 40 percent divorce rate. Solveig Horne, Norway’s new minister for children, equality and social inclusion and a divorcee herself, says, “It is important to find small pockets of time where […]
Posted in Aging, Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Women on Oct 1st, 2013
Recently, National Geographic had a startling cover — a picture of a baby and a headline declaring, “This Baby Will Live To Be 120.” Thanks in part to technological advances as well as ever-increasing life expectancy, others say we could live to be 1,000 years old although many more believe an average life span of […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships on Aug 26th, 2013
Watch out — “broody” women are on the rise, or so says the Daily Mail in a story on “time-poor, cash-rich 40-something singletons” whose biological clocks are ticking. But, they don’t want a husband or even a relationship — they just want a baby, and someone to coparent the child with. So, they are turning […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Family, Relationships, Singles, Stereotypes on Jul 2nd, 2013
It has been 10 years since my (second) divorce, and while in some ways my life became harder and in other ways easier, there was one thing I hadn’t anticipated about being suddenly single at midlife — freedom. Well, I’m not exactly “free”; my boys were 9 and 12 at the time, so they lived […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Relationships, Stereotypes on Jun 10th, 2013
A few months ago, I asked, does getting married make you an adult? It’s a question that came up when my The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Cynics, Commitaphobes and Connubial DIYers coauthor, Susan Pease Gadoua, and I met with two soon-to-be-married couples separately as we gathered research for our book. “Marriage is just […]
Posted in Expectations, Family, Marriage, Stereotypes, Work on Apr 29th, 2013
I didn’t know much about Marco, the guy who kindly takes me to and from my mechanic and my job when my car needs servicing. I knew he is in the States legally, I knew he worked about 70 hours a week at two jobs, I knew he had a wife and a 9-year-old son […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Men, Women on Apr 15th, 2013
There’s an image we have about marriage, about “two becoming one.” Anyone who’s been married for length of time realizes that’s a bit of a lie. We’re still people with our own needs. In fact, many believe what we experience is a “his” and a “her” marriage. Some 50 years ago, sociologist Jessie Bernard noted […]
Posted in Aging, Beauty, Children, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Singles, Women, Work on Apr 1st, 2013
I have been following the kerfuffle over Susan Patton’s letter in the Daily Princetonian, in which the former Princeton grad and mom to two Princeton-educated sons advises Princeton women to nab a hubby on campus before they graduate: “Princeton women, we have almost priced ourselves out of the market … you will never again be surrounded […]
Posted in Children, Cohabitation, Divorce, Family, Fathers, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting on Mar 4th, 2013
What are we going to do with the kids? Society seems to value kids, yet we aren’t doing much to help raise them well. It’s clear the efforts to make divorce harder for those couples with minor children isn’t going to work and who knows if making marriage harder would work either. But maybe it […]
Posted in Family, Infidelity, Marriage, Sex, Stereotypes on Jan 22nd, 2013
At yesterday’s inaugural speech, President Obama strongly hinted that he may endorse marriage for gays and lesbians as an equal right under the Constitution: “Our journey is not complete until our gay brothers and sisters are treated like anyone else under the law, for if we are truly created equal, then surely the love we […]
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