A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Aging, Beauty, Dating, Expectations, Men, Midlife, Relationships, Sex, Singles, Women on Jan 8th, 2019
French actor Yann Moix caused a stir when he said women his age are “invisible to him.” While that may be sexist and ageist, don’t we all want to be attracted to whom we’re attracted to without judgment?
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Love, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Romantic relationships on Dec 31st, 2018
We love our children, our partners, and we want to protect them. It’s understandable. And yet, it’s probably the worst thing we can do for them.
Posted in Beauty, Expectations, Men, Midlife, Politics, Relationships, Sex, Women on Dec 18th, 2018
Russian agent Maria Butina used age-old seduction — flattery and flirtation, and playing to the desires of powerful older men — to attempt to influence U. S. policy. What do so many men, who have so much to lose, fall sway to young babes?
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Cohabitation, Expectations, Family, Happiness, Love, Marital plan, Men, Needs, Relationship contract, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Women on Dec 11th, 2018
When Mandy Len Catron wrote about her relationship contract with her partner in the New York Times’ Modern Love, it get a lot less love than her earlier and much-read Modern Love essay on the 36 questions that can lead you to fall in love with anyone, which led to her charming and insightful book, […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Gender, Happiness, Marriage, Men, Millennials, Mothers, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Wife, Women, Work on Dec 4th, 2018
When I wed for the second time, my hubby and I knew we wanted to have kids. We agreed that we wanted someone to be at home, and since he was older and much more established in his career than I was, we decided he’d be the breadwinner and I’d be the homemaker. Still, I […]
Posted in Caregiving, Expectations, Gender, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Needs, Relationships, Wife, Women on Nov 27th, 2018
Marriage makes people healthy. Or at least that’s what we are constantly told, according to studies that pop up from time to time. While singles advocate Bella dePaulo frequently writes articles debunking those studies, now a new study indicates that, well, she may be both right and wrong. Marriage does help in keeping some people […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Coupledom, Expectations, Happiness, Heartbreak, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex on Nov 20th, 2018
It’s almost Thanksgiving, the beginning of the holiday season and the kick off of “engagement season.” The pressures around the holidays make many of us unhappy, and even if we’re generally OK with our situations — partnered or not — it’s hard not to buy into the whole “most wonderful time of the year” thing. […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Needs, Politics, Relationships, Wife, Women on Nov 13th, 2018
On the surface, it would be hard to find a more picture-perfect healthy, happy marriage — especially an uber-public marriage — than Michelle and Barack Obama’s. Despite the temptation to compare our romantic relationships with the curated happy relationships we often see on Instagram and Facebook — and some of us are guilty of that […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships on Nov 6th, 2018
Someone loves you — in a romantic way — and you love that person in return. Do you have an obligation to try to stay alive as long as possible because it would be painful for your partner if you die? That’s an issue brought up in Free Solo, a new documentary about Alex Honnold, […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Men, Needs, Relationships, Sex, Singles, Women on Oct 30th, 2018
#MeToo stories have been dominating the news for the past year, and many men are exploring their own behavior toward women and what masculinity means to them — all necessary discussions. Women, men are finally beginning to understand, have sexual agency. But based on a discussion I had with a 52-year-old man I had just […]
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