A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage on Jul 2nd, 2012
No sooner did word get out that Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes were divorcing after five years of marriage than rumors of a marriage contract between them resurfaced. Judging by the comments people are leaving on websites like Huffington Post, etc., a marriage contract isn’t a “real” marriage (although a marriage license is just a […]
Posted in Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Relationships, Sex on Jul 2nd, 2012
I had been sitting at a table in the bar area of a local restaurant waiting for a girlfriend when the reality of my new life as a divorcee smacked me in the face and made me pay attention. “Joe,” a man I knew casually through work, was comfortably situated on his barstool and, after […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Divorce, Family, Marriage, Men, Parenting, Stereotypes, Work on Jun 18th, 2012
For Father’s Day, I sent my dad — who lives in a nursing home in Florida, some 2,500 miles away — the obligatory card and called him. In the two-plus years since he fell, hit his head, got emergency brain surgery, almost died and miraculously recouped, I have a lot of time to reflect back […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Midlife, Parenting on Jun 11th, 2012
My son’s high school graduation last week was a sea of faces filled with a mix of joy, exhaustion, sadness and uncertainty — not just the 18-year-olds but their parents as well. As I looked around me, I wondered how many married couples, a good portion about to be empty-nesters, would still be married for […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Men, Sex, Women on May 29th, 2012
Of the many conversations couples need to have before they get married — or move in together — comes another one: What role will the Internet play in their relationship and how transparent are they going to be about that? At least that’s the opinion of Beatriz Avila Mileham, who interviewed married people who used […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage on May 21st, 2012
A few months ago, I had a chance to interview Woodacre therapist Louis Breger about his book Psychotherapy: Lives Intersecting, in which he describes how he contacted former patients after decades to discover if his work with them helped. I was intrigued not only because I love all things psychological, but because I have been […]
Posted in Divorce, Family, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Women on May 14th, 2012
I consider myself pretty lucky that when I divorced, my former spouse and I were civil enough — or maybe just too cheap! — to mediate and avoid lawyers and stay out of family court. And, we agreed that we would coparent 50-50, one week on, one week off. It hasn’t always been easy for any […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Family, Men, Midlife, Mothers, Parenting, Stereotypes, Women on May 1st, 2012
Mothers are back in the news again, thanks to Democratic strategist Hilary Rosen whose comment about stay-at-home-mom of five Ann Romney, wife of presidential candidate Mitt Romney, as a woman who “has actually never worked a day in her life” reignited the so-called Mommy Wars. No one really knows what to do with the state […]
Posted in Aging, Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Stereotypes, Women on Apr 24th, 2012
A few of us were talking about men — a favorite subject — when Alec Baldwin’s name came up. The 54-year-old “30 Rock” actor is engaged to Hilaria Thomas, who’s 28. “It isn’t fair,” lamented one beautiful, brilliant 50-something friend who’s single and would love to find a partner. “We all know what those marriages […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Sex, Women, Work on Apr 23rd, 2012
I wouldn’t want to be one of the 11 Secret Service agents who engaged in hanky-panky with hookers in Colombia right now. Not just because of the uncomfortable media exposure and forced resignations, but because when they get home to their wives or significant others, you just know there’s going to be some ‘splaining to […]
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