A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Cohabitation, Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Singles on Jan 14th, 2013
“So, what are you and ‘J’ going to do?” a friend asked recently. ‘J’ is my boyfriend and we do a lot of things, some of which are not appropriate to discuss publicly. “What do you mean?” “Are you ever going to get married or live together or something like that?” Oh, that question. It’s […]
Posted in Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage on Jan 7th, 2013
I’m really happy I’m not in my 20s and looking for love in 2013. It’s not that I love being middle-aged (although I’ve accepted it and am aging as gracefully as I can). It’s just that I remember when things were, well, different. I’m old enough to remember when a guy asked you out on […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Sex on Dec 10th, 2012
It seems whenever anyone talks about divorce, the C word comes up — commitment. The problem with couples today, the typical comment goes, is that they just don’t know what commitment means. OK, so what does commitment in a marriage mean? If you think it means something like declaring, “I like this relationship and I’m […]
When it comes to divorce, everyone is concerned about the kids. Not that everyone who divorces has kids, but we don’t seem to have as much angst about childfree couples as we do about those who have kids, especially young kids. For all our studies about how divorce impacts kids, ranging from doom and gloom […]
Posted in Divorce, Family, Infidelity, Men, Sex, Women on Nov 13th, 2012
As the details of CIA director David Petraeus’ affair with his biographer Paula Broadwell have slowly unfolded since the retired four-star general announced his resignation last week, it appears to be turning into a bad made-for-TV-drama about a jealous lover with just a touch of “what did she know and when did she know it?” […]
It’s a sad story although that’s not how it started off. They met, they fell in love, they married, they were ridiculously happy in that “How do we even deserve this?” kind of way. Then he got called to serve in Iraq. And he went; it’s what he signed up to do, and he was […]
Pablo Sandoval was the man this week when the San Francisco Giants third baseman hit three home runs in Game 1 of the World Series, leading to his being named the MVP on Sunday when the Giants swept the Detroit Tigers. His performance was a far cry from the Sandoval fans knew in 2010, the last […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Divorce, Expectations, Midlife, Singles on Oct 23rd, 2012
“Do you think you’d still be married if all the bad stuff hadn’t happened?” a friend asked me recently. “Uh, I don’t know,” I answered after a few minutes. It’s true, I don’t really know. I’d like to believe that in what would be 14 years into our marriage, we still would be. I certainly thought […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Women, Work on Oct 15th, 2012
Reading Laura Doyle’s HuffPost post, “6 Reasons Marriage Counseling is BS,” I recalled my own experience with marriage counseling as my marriage imploded. It was or miss — three couples’ counselors (the first was clearly clueless, the second was good but he didn’t like her, the third came too late), and one solo therapist (I […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Divorce, Family, Fathers, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting on Oct 9th, 2012
There’s a lot of hand-wringing about the 50 percent (give or take) divorce rate and the damage that it does to children. Most of us agree that divorce isn’t something that should be entered into lightly — especially if we have young kids — but most of us believe it needs to be an option […]
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