A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships on May 20th, 2013
Why are so many people unhappy in their relationship? That’s a hard question to answer, although that doesn’t stop people from trying to figure it out. According to Dana Adam Shapiro’s research for his book You Can Be Right (or You Can Be Married), very few married people are happy — he says about 17 […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Stereotypes on May 13th, 2013
Gwyneth Paltrow — the most beautiful woman in the world, according to People — confessed to what Ben Affleck admitted a few months ago — marriage is hard and it takes work. “It’s hard being married. You go through great times, you go through terrible times. We’re the same as any couple,” Paltrow said of […]
Posted in Children, Dating, Divorce, Expectations on May 6th, 2013
Like many others, I applauded Jason Collins’ brave decision to come out as gay. I can’t imagine what it would be like to hide my true identity for 12 years, as the the NBA veteran did. As broad-minded and accepting as many of us have become, many are still not as accepting of LGBT people […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Men, Women on Apr 15th, 2013
There’s an image we have about marriage, about “two becoming one.” Anyone who’s been married for length of time realizes that’s a bit of a lie. We’re still people with our own needs. In fact, many believe what we experience is a “his” and a “her” marriage. Some 50 years ago, sociologist Jessie Bernard noted […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Sex, Stereotypes on Apr 8th, 2013
Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith have been in the headlines a lot in recent years, and not because of their movies. They’re either on the verge of divorce or they have an open marriage; I’m not sure which horrifies people more. I can understand why people might be concerned about them divorcing; they have […]
Posted in Children, Cohabitation, Divorce, Family, Fathers, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting on Mar 4th, 2013
What are we going to do with the kids? Society seems to value kids, yet we aren’t doing much to help raise them well. It’s clear the efforts to make divorce harder for those couples with minor children isn’t going to work and who knows if making marriage harder would work either. But maybe it […]
Posted in Children, Cohabitation, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage on Feb 19th, 2013
One of the best parts of the online world is reading comments section. In the past, readers of traditional media wouldn’t be able to have much of a say unless they wrote a letter to the editor (and even that was no guarantee it would get published). So, I enjoyed reading the 390 comments to […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Men, Women on Feb 12th, 2013
It happened to Kris Humphries, it happened to Tom Cruise and it happens to people like you and me. Being blindsided by divorce. It seems odd — how can a spouse have absolutely no clue that his or her marriage is in trouble? Wouldn’t there be warning signs — a lack of interest in sex, […]
Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage on Feb 5th, 2013
I had the pleasure of interviewing Daniel Smith last week in advance of his visit to Marin. Smith is the author of Monkey Mind, a painfully honest an extremely funny account of what it’s like to live with debilitating anxiety and its destructive absurdities. In it, he describes how he lost and then won back […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage on Jan 30th, 2013
I’ve been reading the blogs and writings of other divorcees for some time now and one thing is clear — not all divorcees are created equal. Some still seem so bitter and angry at their former spouse; they’re still pointing fingers at him even if they’re many years past into their divorce. Am I the […]
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