A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Aging, Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Stereotypes, Women on Apr 24th, 2012
A few of us were talking about men — a favorite subject — when Alec Baldwin’s name came up. The 54-year-old “30 Rock” actor is engaged to Hilaria Thomas, who’s 28. “It isn’t fair,” lamented one beautiful, brilliant 50-something friend who’s single and would love to find a partner. “We all know what those marriages […]
Posted in Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Women on Apr 2nd, 2012
Because of the book project I’m working on The New I Do, I had heard from Melissa of The Long Haul Project, a young couple who, “on a journey to save our marriage,” have been meeting married couples around the globe and recording their secrets to marital happiness. So I read through their blog and […]
Posted in Aging, Beauty, Children, Dating, Divorce, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Women on Mar 12th, 2012
When I asked a friend recently how she’s doing, she paused and answered, “I keep wondering if this is all there is.” She, like me, is 50-something and like many 50-somethings we are empty-nesters or about to be empty-nesters; we’re either 20-something years into a marriage or divorced. We’re in the so-called “midlife crisis” years, […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Men, Singles, Women on Feb 13th, 2012
A girlfriend with whom I have been trying to make plans texted me: she’s free to get together Tuesday or Wednesday night. I’m free both nights, too, but then it occurred to me — Tuesday is Valentine’s Day. Even in liberal, open-minded Bay Area, would two women grabbing drinks and dinner together on the most […]
Posted in Aging, Dating, Men, Sex, Singles, Women on Feb 7th, 2012
A few things went through my head while watching the Super Bowl (beside being thankful that my son gave up football — the injuries! the physical abuse! — and thinking that it would be a bit unfair to be married to Gisele Bundchen and win the Super Bowl). In no particular order, Madonna, aging, Valentine’s […]
Posted in Dating, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage on Feb 2nd, 2012
Tall, dark, attractive, blue-eyed, blond, intelligent, athletic, funny, fit, shapely — certain traits turn us on when it comes to finding someone to love. But with couples breaking up all the time and a 50 percent or so divorce rate, those traits mean little when it comes to what really matters — finding someone who […]
I shouldn’t be as surprised as I am about the responses to my latest Huffington Post piece, Why Men Need to Cheat — more than 3,800 comments! — but I am. I’m not surprised that the topic would upset people; hey, infidelity is a hot topic (because so many people have their lives touched by […]
Posted in Cohabitation, Dating, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Parenting, Singles on Sep 24th, 2011
I am about to say something that many might consider blasphemous — I don’t think couples should live together. Now, before you cast me as some pro-marriage, uber-conservative who has been reading one too many National Marriage Project (NMP) studies, be assured I am not. At the risk of sounding somewhat Orwellian, let me clarify: […]
Posted in Dating, Divorce, Marriage, Parenting on Jul 5th, 2011
I have been feeling a little like the queen of ugly. I had no idea a blog post written tongue-in-cheek about whether women should marry attractive men or not would create such a furor — Jezebel thinks I’m blaming women for men’s bad behavior (I’m not); Rush Limbaugh thinks I’m a militant feminist (wow, is […]
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