A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Aug 23rd, 2016
Let’s say you’re in a long-term marriage, one that’s pretty satisfying. You love your spouse, your spouse loves you, but you have a lot of things on your plate — work and kids and other things — and you’ve lost your sexual mojo. Would you tell your spouse, “Please have sex with someone else?” That’s […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Friends, Love, Relationships on Aug 9th, 2016
I’ve long been a fan of the writings of Meg-John Barker, a psychology lecturer and sex and gender therapist whose book, Rewriting the Rules, is a must-read for those who question the romantic love script most of us tend to follow as if it’s the only path available to us. So I was not surprised […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships, Sex, Wife on Aug 1st, 2016
The conventions just ended and there were a few speeches that will never be forgotten, Melania Trump‘s for one and Michelle Obama‘s for another. And then there was Bill Clinton’s about his wife and Democratic presidential nominee, Hillary Clinton. Of course Bill praised his wife. But as he did, many couldn’t help but wonder about […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Love, Marital plan, Marriage, Relationships on Jul 19th, 2016
Recently, an old Modern Love piece appeared in my social media feed. It was about consensual non-monogamy so of course I had to click on it. I suppose it was a popular piece, as most Modern Love essays are, but this one — “When an Open Relationship Comes at a Price” — irked me a […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Divorce, Expectations, Heartbreak, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Jul 12th, 2016
You’re in a long-term happy, sexually active marriage and one day you discover that your spouse has been cheating on you — basically since Day 1. How do you feel? You’d probably feel heart-broken and devastated, which is how a man writing to author, LGBTQ activist and columnist Dan Savage signed off as in his latest […]
Posted in Children, Consensual nonmonogamy, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Sex, Women on Jun 28th, 2016
You’ve gone on a few dates, you’re starting to like each other and then, the question — “So, how many people have you slept with?” It’s more than just a number, of course — it’s a peek into your sexual beliefs and practices, and, sometimes, a source of shame or pride. According to a 2015 […]
Posted in Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships, Sex, Stereotypes, Wife, Women on May 31st, 2016
According to New York magazine, women are cheating as men as men. The article cites some studies indicating that in the past two decades, the percentage of hubbys admitting to cheating hasn’t changed, but the percentage of wives fessing up rose almost 40 percent. Call me cynical, but why is this news to anyone? For […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Family, Love, Parenting, Relationships, Sex, Stereotypes on May 10th, 2016
When the U.S. Supreme Court ruled last year that same-sex couples could marry no matter which state they lived in, many believed it would open the door to polyamorous marriage — marriage among three or more people. “I don’t think it’s going to be as far in the future as people think,” a confident Robyn […]
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