A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marital plan, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships on Oct 11th, 2016
No matter how you feel about the Angelina Jolie-Brad Pitt divorce — including the desire to not have to think about it, celebrity divorces or divorce in general — there is one thing all parents should pay attention to. The reason they split, we’re lead to believe, is because they couldn’t agree on how to […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Infidelity, Relationships on Sep 20th, 2016
None of us wed thinking we’ll get divorced. Oh sure, most of us are aware that divorce is an option, but not for all, whether for religious beliefs, a desire to make it work no matter what (commitment being a commitment), fear of “failing” or perhaps good ol’ stubbornness. And then, stuff happens. Stuff happened […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Aug 30th, 2016
I am feeling it for Huma Abedin. Just yesterday, Abedin — vice chairwoman of Hillary Clinton’s 2016 presidential campaign — announced that she is separating from her husband, Anthony Weiner, who resigned from Congress in 2011 and lost a bid to be mayor of New York City in 2013, both times because of sexting scandals. […]
Posted in Aging, Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Family, Marital plan, Relationships, Women on Jul 26th, 2016
You’ve consciously coupled. You and your spouse discussed everything from money to sex to children to in-laws to household chores. Maybe you even read The New I Do (hey, an author can dream, right?). I applaud you and support you. Still, I’ll bet there’s something you didn’t discuss, and it’s not because you’re oblivious. You’re […]
Posted in Children, Consensual nonmonogamy, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Sex, Women on Jun 28th, 2016
You’ve gone on a few dates, you’re starting to like each other and then, the question — “So, how many people have you slept with?” It’s more than just a number, of course — it’s a peek into your sexual beliefs and practices, and, sometimes, a source of shame or pride. According to a 2015 […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Coupledom, Expectations, Family, Gender, Love, Marriage, Mothers, Relationships, Wife, Work on Jun 14th, 2016
A few years ago a woman wrote to me out of the blue. She had been reading this blog and saw me as a woman who “got” it. What did I get? The right for women invest in their own life and not put a husband’s needs and wants over hers. A successful business- woman […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Family, Parenting, Relationships on May 17th, 2016
A few weeks ago the New York Post brought the concept of bird nesting back into our consciousness, but it wasn’t until Kelly Ripa brought it up as a taunt on Live with Kelly and Michael that people began to take notice. Bird nesting — when children stay in the family home and the parents […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Consensual nonmonogamy, Expectations, Family, Love, Parenting, Relationships, Sex, Stereotypes on May 10th, 2016
When the U.S. Supreme Court ruled last year that same-sex couples could marry no matter which state they lived in, many believed it would open the door to polyamorous marriage — marriage among three or more people. “I don’t think it’s going to be as far in the future as people think,” a confident Robyn […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Parenting, Relationships on May 3rd, 2016
Is there a backlash against mothers and kids? It sure seems that way lately. Two weeks ago I suggested that childfree people support the family leave recently passed by San Francisco and New York City. That didn’t go over too well with a vocal childfree group on Facebook led by a woman whom I have […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Family, Men, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Single parents, Women on Apr 26th, 2016
We’re coming up on Mother’s Day, and that means the “mother as hero” rhetoric typically heats up. I have the utmost respect and compassion for parents. As a mom, a single divorced mom, I know how hard a job parenting is. It’s harder than anything I have ever done and probably ever will do. That […]
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