A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Aging, Children, Coupledom, Expectations, Family, Happiness, Midlife, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Singles on Jul 10th, 2018
When my first marriage ended and I spent several years as a single woman in my mid- to late-20s, contentedly dating but not meeting any kind of man I’d want to partner with — OK, it was Miami in the ’80s so maybe it was a Miami thing — I remember thinking, well, I just […]
Posted in Children, Consensual nonmonogamy, Happiness, Live Apart Together, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Romantic relationships on May 29th, 2018
Actor Hugh Grant got married last week to his longtime partner, Swedish television producer Anna Eberstein, the first time the father of five has tied the knot. He’s 57. That in and of itself is not weird — more couples are having children outside of marriage and many “perpetual bachelors” marry later in life, as […]
Posted in Aging, Children, Divorce, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Midlife, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships on May 15th, 2018
If your marriage makes it to the 20th year — when you’re likely at midlife — you’ll either be the happiest you’ve been in your marriage, according to a new study, or you’ll be heading to divorce court, as so many 50 and older people have been doing in recent years, either happily — if […]
Posted in Caregiving, Children, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Happiness, Marriage, Mothers, Needs, Parenting, Relationships on May 8th, 2018
We are coming up on Mother’s Day and I am reflecting on my life as a mom and here’s what I’ve come to realize — I was a bad mother. Not to my two boys (well, they’ll have to be the judge of that but, hey, that’s what shrinks are for), but to myself. For […]
Posted in Aging, Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Midlife, Relationships on Apr 10th, 2018
Across the globe, fewer women are having babies, sometimes by chance — whether the lack of a romantic partner or fertility issues — but often by choice. While childfree couples tend to divorce more, I wondered if childfree couples tend to split early in the marriage or later — the typical midlife crisis years or, […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Relationships on Mar 20th, 2018
The news broke last week that Donald Trump Jr.’s wife, Vanessa, filed for divorce after 12 years of marriage and five children, ages 3 to 10, together. And immediately, Twitter exploded with “serves him right” jabs, which didn’t sit right with everybody. “Really weird and upsetting to see folks acting gleeful at the Don Jr. […]
Posted in Children, Family, Friends, Marriage, Relationships, Singles on Feb 27th, 2018
We attach a lot of meaning to marriage — love, commitment, children, financial security, etc. But does marriage make you a family? That’s what attorney, feminist writer, author and newlywed Jill Filipovic claimed recently in an article on why she changed her mind about marriage. It was not an easy decision for her — marriage […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Marriage, Relationships, Romantic relationships on Feb 12th, 2018
We’re in the middle of National Marriage Week, a campaign that seeks to strengthen marriage and that ends on Valentine’s Day. Few would argue against strong marriages, but the truth is more young people are delaying or avoiding marriage. Meanwhile, more older people are divorcing like crazy and either happily living alone or living together […]
Posted in Children, Expectations, Family, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Relationships, Sex, Women on Jan 30th, 2018
You’re pregnant with your first child. Can’t speak what that’s like for a man but for a woman who has maybe wanted to be a mom for a long time, and who sometimes wondered if that was going to happen, it’s a wonderful, scary, exhausting, overwhelming thing. I’m sure it was for Melania Trump, too, […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Happiness, Marriage, Men, Mothers, Needs, Parenting, Relationships, Women on Jan 2nd, 2018
It’s January, a new year and the beginning of what’s known as “divorce month.” But when you file for divorce doesn’t really matter — what matters is how you divorce, especially if you have young children. Say what you will about Gwyenth Paltrow and her vaginal jade eggs, and Goop’s $290 sweat set, but there’s […]
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