A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Children, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Sex on Sep 29th, 2014
Susan Pease Gadoua’s and my book is finally out (yay!), and for those of you who are curious what we’re talking about, her’s a nifty flowchart that our publisher Seal Press put together. There are many more arrows that could connect the dots (or bubbles, as it were), such as a Parenting Marriage connecting to […]
Posted in Children, Cohabitation, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Sex, Single parents, Women on Sep 22nd, 2014
Recently, the Brookings Institute published “The Marriage Effect: Money or Parenting?” — a report that looks into what matters more for children’s well-being — having married parents, being in a financially stable family or parents with good parenting skills. While the report acknowledges that marriage promotion efforts haven’t worked, marriage does seem to offer some […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex on Sep 17th, 2014
I don’t know how anyone can make a love triangle feel good for everyone, but there are some love triangles that just appear downright, I dunno, weird. Take the Mark Sanford-Jenn Sanford-Maria Belen Chapur saga. The Sanfords’ bitter divorce drags on — five years after the married South Carolina Representative mysteriously disappeared only to be […]
Posted in Children, Cohabitation, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Millennials, Parenting, Relationships, Single parents, Weddings on Sep 10th, 2014
Last week, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie tied the knot — or finally tied the knot if you’re a follower of pop culture websites or mags. While they didn’t follow the typical trajectory — meet, date, fall in love, become a committed couple, move in together, wed, have kids — they ended up in the […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Fathers, Marriage, Men, Parenting, Relationships, Stereotypes on Aug 19th, 2014
Recently, there was an article on the HuffPost that I found somewhat disturbing. A newly divorced mom who admits she married young — 21 and just out of college — to a man with mental challenges. They eventually divorced with young children and now she has to co-parent with him as former spouses. If co-parenting […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Stereotypes, Women, Work on Aug 12th, 2014
You love your life, you love your spouse and you’re thinking about adding a baby into the mix because you love the idea of having a child with your beloved. No problem, right? Right … depending on your gender, something Rebecca Onion addresses so beautifully in her Slate article: I’m willing to allow that being […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships on Jul 8th, 2014
Here’s how most of us who are thinking about leaving our marriage imagine divorce will be like: We’ve had it with our partner (or perhaps he’s decided the same about us and casts us aside, but let’s just say we’re the ones who want out and let’s say we’re the woman because women ask for […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships on Jun 17th, 2014
I have to admit that when this Google “divorce” alert came into my email inbox, I kinda smiled: “Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin ‘consciously re-coupling’ as they cool divorce plans.” I don’t know why I smiled; I’m actually a bit horrified that I did. I know divorce isn’t always horrible, especially if you can consciously uncouple […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, LGBT, Love, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting, Relationships, Singles on Apr 1st, 2014
I am not a single mom — I’m a divorced coparenting mom who has had 50-50 joint physical custody, and even that has had its share of challenges. When I think of single parents by choice, I shudder a bit. I just can’t imagine beginning responsible for a baby or child 24/7 all by myself […]
Posted in Children, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships on Mar 26th, 2014
The news this week was that actress Gwyneth Paltrow and Coldplay front man Chris Martin are splitting, or as they put it “conscious uncoupling.” In a joint statement, the couple that married in 2003 said: “We are parents first and foremost, to two incredibly wonderful children and we ask for their and our space and […]
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