A journalist and author's musings on love, marriage, divorce and life
Posted in Aging, Dating, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Midlife, Relationships, Romantic relationships on Jan 29th, 2019
At midlife, many of us are not following the typical romantic script. We may have been hoping for love, but we didn’t necessarily expect it. And that turns out to be a gift.
Posted in Aging, Beauty, Dating, Expectations, Men, Midlife, Relationships, Sex, Singles, Women on Jan 8th, 2019
French actor Yann Moix caused a stir when he said women his age are “invisible to him.” While that may be sexist and ageist, don’t we all want to be attracted to whom we’re attracted to without judgment?
Posted in Aging, Caregiving, Dating, Divorce, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Needs, Relationships, Women on Sep 25th, 2018
There’s been a lot of talk about so-called gray divorces — people aged 50 and older who exit their often long-term marriage for a variety of reasons. Some look forward to their newfound freedom as singles, some seek casual arrangements, some are eager to partner again but not marry, and some remarry and replicate the […]
Posted in Aging, Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Happiness, Heartbreak, Infidelity, Marriage, Mothers, Politics, Relationships on Sep 4th, 2018
This past week, the country mourned for U.S. Sen. John McCain, who died Aug. 25 at age 81. He was lauded by Barack Obama, Joe Biden and others as a hero, a friend, a voice of reason, an “extraordinary man.” While I didn’t necessarily agree with McCain’s politics, I agree that he was a man […]
Posted in Aging, Consensual nonmonogamy, Dating, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Midlife, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Sex, Singles on Aug 28th, 2018
Four years ago, I explored dating at midlife, which has proven to be one of my more popular posts. Four years ago — when I was four years younger than I am now, sigh — I noted that a number of my 50-something, empty-nester, divorced female friends had happily found love again. Some cohabited. Some […]
Posted in Aging, Caregiving, Divorce, Expectations, Happiness, Infidelity, Marital plan, Marriage, Men, Midlife, Millennials, Needs, Parenting, Relationship contract, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Women on Jul 31st, 2018
While divorce isn’t nearly the 50 percent of all marriages we’ve been lead to believe, there’s one group that has seen the rate of divorce skyrocket — boomers, or those aged 50 and older, aka gray divorce. OK, great, but if you’re not a boomer, does it even matter? Well, yeah. Because even if you’re […]
Posted in Aging, Children, Coupledom, Expectations, Family, Happiness, Midlife, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships, Singles on Jul 10th, 2018
When my first marriage ended and I spent several years as a single woman in my mid- to late-20s, contentedly dating but not meeting any kind of man I’d want to partner with — OK, it was Miami in the ’80s so maybe it was a Miami thing — I remember thinking, well, I just […]
Posted in Aging, Children, Divorce, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Midlife, Needs, Relationships, Romantic relationships on May 15th, 2018
If your marriage makes it to the 20th year — when you’re likely at midlife — you’ll either be the happiest you’ve been in your marriage, according to a new study, or you’ll be heading to divorce court, as so many 50 and older people have been doing in recent years, either happily — if […]
Posted in Aging, Children, Divorce, Expectations, Family, Marriage, Midlife, Relationships on Apr 10th, 2018
Across the globe, fewer women are having babies, sometimes by chance — whether the lack of a romantic partner or fertility issues — but often by choice. While childfree couples tend to divorce more, I wondered if childfree couples tend to split early in the marriage or later — the typical midlife crisis years or, […]
Posted in Aging, Cohabitation, Expectations, Happiness, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Renewable marriage, Romantic relationships on Oct 10th, 2017
The funny thing about marriage (well, there are many, but let’s narrow it down) is that lots of people seem to have a “secret” that will magically transform everyone’s marriage into a manageable, doable and supposedly happy union. Like this week’s Modern Love written by Gabrielle Zevin — except her secret to marriage isn’t necessarily […]
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