About
Jul 5th, 2011 by OMGchronicles
As a longtime award-winning journalist, author, writer, columnist, editor and freelancer, my work can be found in numerous places — websites, magazines, books, newspapers and here. 
I am a divorced mom of two wonderful young men who are taller than I am so I’m a lot nicer to them nowadays. I live in the San Francisco Bay Area and am usually hiking or biking when I’m not behind my desk at the Marin Independent Journal, where I am the lifestyles editor, writer and columnist, or my desk at home — yeah, it’s my dining room table — from which I contribute to the New York Times, the Washington Post, Aeon, AARP’s The Ethel, the Guardian, Divorce Force, Role Reboot, Divorce 360, Huffington Post and elsewhere.
I am working on a book on how to have a happy and healthy live apart together (LAT) relationship that will be published by Cleis Press in summer 2024.
My latest book is on changing the ageist and sexist narratives about aging as a woman, Not Too Old For That: How Women Are Changing the Story of Aging (Rowman & Littlefield, April 4 2022).
I also have co-written a book with Susan Pease Gadoua, a longtime Marin divorce counselor and author of Contemplating Divorce, called The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels (Seal Press, Sept. 28, 2014) a cutting-edge book that challenges our one-size-fits-all, till-death-do-we-part version of marriage and offers new models, including LAT, that work better for who we are today.
I am an observer of people and love to explore why we do what we do. Plus I read a lot, perhaps too much, and like to share interesting tidbits that I discover. What I hope to do here is get a dialog going about men, women, love, relationships, divorce, marriage, society — really, life.
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Just responding to your article, “Why Divorced Men Are Quick To Marry Again.” I am an exception. I have been divorced for 6 years and have not remarried primarily because of my steadfast resolve to remain “free.” So much so that I have turned away two or three women who probably would have married me. The only tempting reason for me to remarry is to add a second income and more financial security. Still, I have endured much discomfort to remain free. Every year, when I am forced to take a cold shower in October due to my gas being turned off (due to child support and alimony bills), I shiver to myself and chant, “At least I’m free, at least I’m free, freedom is priceless.” And that warms me up pretty fast.
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Hi Jason,
Thanks for reading and writing. I totally get the “free” part (although I’m not totally free as I still have a teen at home — one more year!) I enjoy my space, but also enjoy time with my partner. I don’t see a need to get married at my age, but I would if it mattered to him. It doesn’t. We’re not even sure if we’ll live together — why “ruin” a good thing? 😉
I totally agree being free is great and yes I do have some ‘financial’ issues from time to time but I would never re-marry or be with a man for financial reasons. I have been single for almost 5 years and unlike other friends I do not feel desperate, alone, lonely. My life is busy interesting and I just simply always find something to do, learn, experience. I love people full stop and I do not have any issues against men. My husband left for a younger woman (25 years younger) and yes I was bored to death in our loveless sexless marriage. No passion whatsoever. We married young and simply grew apart. I am happier now I do not seek internet dating services I am leaving it to chance: che sara’ sara’
I read your blog about LAT. I am also divorced as is my current husband. We both had children from our previous marriages. He has two boys and I have one son. His are ages 10 and 7, mine is 9. Now we currently have a 17 month old. We live apart because my week to week custody agreement court order has me staying in my home town to take my son to school on my weeks with him, my husband has decided to stay an hour an a half away in his town because he won’t leave his boys. They have no court ordered agreement so he sees them after school each day for a few hours to take them to sports, etc. My issue is that he won’t come and be closer to his current wife(me) and his daughter. I don’t do well with the live apart stuff. I could had we not had our daughter but she only sees her dad now one day a week for a couple of minutes and that’s Sunday’s when he comes for church but has to go back an hour and a half away. We have never doubt or argued or had any big disagreement except for now with this issue. He had mentioned moving but always changes his mind because of him not wanting to leave his boys and his ex gets mad and rags him about it. So what advice could you give me?
I am just so happy to have found you. “Suffering” such as it is, is no fun alone so finding you and your readers has really brightened up my life. Looking at relationships in different ways is a more realistic approach to modern living and the evolving culture.
In love with married women .1st day i meet her i feel in love but can’t cross the line. she wont either she so beuatiful amazing never women like this in my life, we became bond of friendship , every day i tell her how beuatiful she is her hubsand had not touch her 8 years how can man not touch he’s wife .
Never been married before had girlfriend 12 years she pass away 12 years didn’t have sex total destroy me and found love again .but she married . Evening i respect her vows we just stay friends either way . Here for her no matter m
I am an eighty two year old married male,. i have not had sex /intimacy/ affection from my wife of 55 + years since she had a heart valve done in 2000. doctor sez she is ok for sex . when I asked or tried to get affectionate I am rebuffed” get over it at your age”.I don’t necessarily want intercourse( ed problem) but would like sexual intimacy. Very very unhappy but too afraid to ask for divorce. any help out there?
Hello Vicki
I wanted to thank you for your article in the Fourth Wave, https://medium.com/fourth-wave/covid-19-is-creating-a-new-generation-of-young-widows-67aee78d9519
that brings attention to the issues widows face and the needs of younger widows, especially profound since COVID changed so many lives.
I am Chair, Board of Directors, for The W Connection, a national, virtual non-profit for widows founded in 2009 by Dawn Nargi who was widowed at 40 3 months after bringing her son home from the NICU. At the time, Dawn was working at Morgan Stanley as a Sr VP and found little support available for a young widow or for any widow. She founded the W Connection, and I joined in 2013 as a widow ( in my 50’s) and women’s health expert. I am also an adjunct professor at Georgetown University and New York University, in the graduate Midwifery/Women’s Health programs and working on research evaluating the effects on the immune system of the stress from bereavement in widows. I would love to connect with you to chat
Thank you for this much-needed article. We are seeing younger widows join our organization as well
I invite you to review our website which is undergoing some redesign.
http://www.wconnection.org
Thank you
Jeanne Jacobwitz, CNM, MPH, MS, FACNM