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Monthly Archive for October, 2012

You can’t divorce yourself from your work

Posted in Divorce, Family, Work on Oct 29th, 2012

Pablo Sandoval was the man this week when the San Francisco Giants third baseman hit three home runs in Game 1 of the World Series, leading to his being named the MVP on Sunday when the Giants swept the Detroit Tigers. His performance was a far cry from the Sandoval fans knew in 2010, the last […]

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What I learned after my second divorce

Posted in Cohabitation, Divorce, Expectations, Midlife, Singles on Oct 23rd, 2012

“Do you think you’d still be married if all the bad stuff hadn’t happened?” a friend asked me recently. “Uh, I don’t know,” I answered after a few minutes. It’s true, I don’t really know. I’d like to believe that in what would be 14 years into our marriage, we still would be. I certainly thought […]

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Why is marriage ‘work,’ and why is it the wife’s responsibility?

Posted in Cohabitation, Divorce, Expectations, Marriage, Women, Work on Oct 15th, 2012

Reading Laura Doyle’s HuffPost post, “6 Reasons Marriage Counseling is BS,” I recalled my own experience with marriage counseling as my marriage imploded. It was or miss — three couples’ counselors (the first was clearly clueless, the second was good but he didn’t like her, the third came too late), and one solo therapist (I […]

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Should divorce be harder to get?

Posted in Cohabitation, Divorce, Family, Fathers, Marriage, Mothers, Parenting on Oct 9th, 2012

There’s a lot of hand-wringing about the 50 percent (give or take) divorce rate and the damage that it does to children. Most of us agree that divorce isn’t something that should be entered into lightly — especially if we have young kids — but most of us believe it needs to be an option […]

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Would marriages last if we stopped romanticizing them?

Posted in Divorce, Expectations, Marriage on Oct 2nd, 2012

There was Big! Marriage! News! over the weekend — actress Anne Hathaway got married (and evidently “all we’ve been able to talk about today” is her look) and the New York Times took a crack at marriage contracts (which, as you may know, is among the ideas Susan Pease Gadoua and I are presenting in our […]

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