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The Simon Cowell-Lauren Silverman saga sure is an interesting one: a 36-year-old married mom gets knocked up by her 53-year-old never-married multimillionaire lover who has stated quite publicly that marriage is boring, that he doesn’t know if he can be faithful, and that he’s interested in women who are drama queens:   crazy women

“I’m attracted to crazy women. I encourage crazy behaviour and I make them crazy. I’m attracted to certain personalities who are difficult to control. So there are tantrums, tears and fights, which is all part of the drama. My life is really odd. Every girl wants to be number one and they’re very territorial. I like the fight, because otherwise I’d have a dull group of girlfriends.” tweet

OK, at least the man knows what he likes. But, why does that attract women? A desire to change him (which we all know doesn’t really work) or a secret hope that he himself will change (ditto, with the occasional surprise). Or is just that the man has so much money, and is so generous to his former girlfriends, that it’s worth putting up with it for a while?

Not much is known about the newly divorced Silverman except that she’s described as a socialite and being “much more interesting than any of those tacky housewives,” by Cowell himself. I’d want to be acknowledged for more than that perhaps that’s just me. She evidently has declared that she’s “so in love with Simon” that she wants “to be with him” and “marry him.

Because why, exactly? Because he’ll be a great husband? Because he’ll be a great father to their child and stepfather to her 7-year-old son? Because he’ll be both? You have to wonder why people are set on marrying someone when there are red flags practically slapping them in the face.

Cowell isn’t the first man — or woman — to be crystal clear about who and what he/she is about. And kudos to those who know what they want in life and take steps that set them on that path. Not that Cowell has done that, but still.

The dysfunction of their saga would all be somewhat amusing if children weren’t being thrust into situation. Raising children in dysfunction isn’t a healthy thing, no matter how much money you have and Cowell is worth a lot and Silverman divorced with a few mil in her pocket.

Some people are just drawn to drama. It does make life interesting — or perhaps just complicated — and true, that helps prevent boredom. But I’d rather find so other way to keep things fresh and exciting. Drama is exhausting!

  • Are you drawn to drama in your relationships?
  • Have you ignored red flags?
  • Is it worth putting up with drama if helps you live a certain lifestyle for a while?

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One Response to “Why do some people want relationships with drama?”

  1. Hi Vicki,
    Thanks so much for suggesting Satayan reach out to me. I’m honoured that you thought of me — and especially so, since I’m a fan of your posts. If you ever want to connect please email deborah@thesmartdivorce.com.
    All the best,

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